Hi Emeh,
I know you get lots of mail but honestly i need you to help me because i'm in a serious dilemma.
I had dis guy av been dating on and off for years 5yrs to be exact, so last year year we broke up finally (in my mind), but his family members are always on my case and he still visits me.
Let me cut the long story short,in all of our years together i have always tried to play safe by using preventive drugs after the act. but you know when God will catch you all those things you rely on will fail...
so right now am 4weeks pregnant and the baby-daddy is telling me to abort it because he is not ready to become a father and am soscared.Am yet to tell my family or any of his and currently the job am doing right now can barely feed me...and the twist is that my baby sister is pregnant though her introduction date is fixed ..I am so confused because am scared of the unknown...
Hmmmm... Dicey one there,if u can still talk to him to come around,maybe just maybe... But if he is hell bent on abortion. You now have to decide what you want,alot of if's comes to play,if u die during the process,if the baby is going to be taken care by only u... What ever. u want to decide is entirely up to u.. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteWell,many av given dier advice ,just don't ABORT,pls. Ur parents won't just b proud dat dier daughters are just getting pregnant bcos dats part of d reason ur younger sis is doing her intro. Nobody holy pass,but LADIES learn d NO SEX during r/ship. A guy who rily loves u won't b demanding for sex like a dog. Dats y guys r no more getting married-free sex,free cook,free washing maachine. He'll also do dis to anoda lady for some yrs cos evrytin is free. If he rily loves u,he wouldn't av told u 2abort. I pray all ends well bcos in some yrs to come,u'll luk @ur baby in d eye and thank God u birthed d baby. Wishing u safe delivery!!!
DeleteJust keep it. Na God dey watch over mad woman pikin
DeleteSounds like Belinda the witch
DeletePls dear don't abort. You'll regret it later on. God will be with you and He will give you wisdom and strength
DeleteU better kill the baby daddy first, then keep your baby! He thinks its easy to get babies? Does he know how many married ppl are crying 2 daily coz they cant hv babies? Rubbish,
DeleteLOL@ Keisha, it cant be me, i cant get confused because of pregnancy naaa, for what? Um pregnant as it is and cant wait to send you pictures.....stay tuned!
What postinor 2 cant dispose, no man can do,,,its God's gift, keep it.
DeleteHmmmm, Well ma dear, If you do not want to keep the Baby, Why not Abort it?? Cause I really do not know what you want us to tell you. Its Either you take the Shame and keep the Baby that's if there's Anything to be Ashamed of, If Not then Get Rid of it.. As For your BF, well he's told you his mind that he is not ready to father a child yet, so my dear, Take it easy on yourself and make it open if you wish or go hard on it.. Belinda, Sandra and Gina may have a better Solution for you..
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No body is holy nor Righteous any way;But d truth is that abortion is never d best not at all,what of if she loss her life in d process? What will she tell Baba God?.she made a big mistake by dating and wasting her precious time for good 5years? Which kind fake love be that?...she should just give birth to d baby who knows that babe might be a great person tomorrow..we have Examples of Naija stars; who got pregnant an today they are absolutely doing well big time. Its well
DeleteCorrect girl sandra, good advice.
DeleteLOL@ Fake love for 5 years!
DeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteMy dear pls DON'T abort it ooo. Countless number of women are looking for dis opportunity and u wan troway ur own! Pls dnt.
ReplyDeleteMaking sense!
DeleteDon't abort that child o
ReplyDeleteIts exhausting when people ask you questions about your relationship. I get palpitations followed by anxiety then
probably laugh or frown or do whatever pops into my head at the moment. Single ladies should NEVER be asked these questions EVER!!! even on your death bed, don't ( tongue in cheek) click HERE to find out.
Hmmmm ... Y do I feel that you know what to do? Every problem comes with it solution. Marriage isn't by force. Since you don't have a good job yet to take care of your self not to talk of taking care of a baby. Babe pls use your head.
ReplyDeleteShe should abort abi?
Deletebabe ... I didn't say anything o
Delete@brownsugar... God bless your initiative!!!
Delete@Esh ... Thanks! Bless you too
DeleteMiss poster..my candid advice to you is that abortion should be the last option in your mind after all d deed has being done,Secondly why will u even date a guy for good 5 years and he is not saying any good thing abt d future btw u guys?? U better come out straight and tell ur family members and his family also so they can know how to come for ur introduction..its well
ReplyDeleteIts better u give birth to d baby than going for an abortion cos that's not an option big NO .....that's y we ladies have to be wise when it comes to dating a guy so many fake guys out there who are not ready to take responsibility but they are more ready to take u to bed...its well
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ReplyDeleteThat I went on an unofficial 7star vacation to somewhere close to space away from all the drama I face him taming u all isn't enough reason for anyone to openly declare their intention of stealing my position.
I haven't given my resignation letter neither have I declared any intention of stepping down from my provost position.
U all will have to deal with me for another 30yrs or more cos my post will never become open anytime soon. For those that tot to dethrone me should go to mile 2under bridge and Knee down tomorrow afternoon by 2pm exactly for 3hours until I give order for their release
Disciplinary letters and fines to be issued out soon
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Karma is a bitch
And barbie who!!!
Una don hear?
Lol ... You are mouthed
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DeleteJanet shut up!
Nobody's taking her space.she's just been missed
Lmao. Our local champion is back
DeletePhewwwww! Village champion don come! welcome bck, missed u loadz.
DeleteKeisha is this a welcome back or what?For the sake of merriment,I will let u get away just this time.
Delete@Janet my eyes are fixed firmly on them.@Belinda,I believe ur enjoying your promotion,missed u alil.
Missed u all my kids
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Abeg tell your mum ,your people about this I hope they will assist you dnt do the other.#NoToAbortion. #myAdvice But this is not easy atall.
ReplyDeletecongrat dearie. now u will learn life in a hard way by being a single mother. When the guy's family refused that was a signal to let go, but stubborn ladies like u will think having baby will change their mind. This is a lesson to other ladies who sleep around without applying wisdom
ReplyDeleteGood point
DeleteVery right!
DeleteI hate manipulative women.same goes for ladies witholding sex for the sole purpose of getting a guy to marry them.all na manipulation.
Have a baby jare and raise it.you won't be the first.atleast u'll learn how to make better decisions in the future every time you look at that child.
You dated a guy for five whole yrs and you knew it was goin nowhere and yet....
Meanwhile what is your HIV status?????
Good question karma...
DeleteWhats yourz?
Plzzzz my dear don't ever think of aborting dat baby first tell ur boy's family then kw wat they will say bt whether good or bad plzzz don't abort d child..he or she meant give u hope 4 2morrow..d lord is ur strength
ReplyDeleteits not easy was about to say depending on our age tho but since ur younger sis is doing her introduction it means you are not too young to have a baby pls and pls keep it I know aw frustrating it can be especially wen d baby daddy doesn't want you to have it but really its for a reason....pls tell him why you should have it asides being a sin(forgivable one) its would taunt you like wen u see pple with kids only if you are without conscience.....
ReplyDeletepls keep it if he doesn't agree you not d only single mom you work God would enlarge your coast but trust me it is not easy
..you bear ur consequences too not do guy you are on the receiving angle
PLEASE DON'T ABORT! THE GUILT THAT COMES WITH ABORTION IS TERRIBLE. IV NOT BEEN MYSELF EVER SINCE I DID IT. I GET SCARED EVERYTIME I LOOK AT BABIES. IT'S HORRIBLE, IF I COULD TURN BACK THE HANDS OF TIME, IL FACE THE CONSEQUENCES AND KEEP THE BABY. YOU STILL HAVE THE CHANCE PLEASE I BEG YOU. KEEP THE BABY!! Your parents would never kill u. Society will only talk and shut up after a while. God will give u the strength. Please keep the baby, I beg u.
ReplyDeleteGod wil tak control
ReplyDeleteOk as a bad bitch that I am, we play by the rules ok.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, u don't date a guy for 5yrs wen he is not saying anything about ur future together. And it looks like u are even of age coz ur younger sis is getting married. U would have left that relationship wen the hand writing was boldly written but the u tot u could trap him by getting pregnant so he will marry u coz ur younger sis got preg and dey are coming to marry her. That was the mistake u made girl.
And secondly, u don't sleep with a boy friend without protection ooh that's some risky shit to do coz u don't know how many other ladies he is sleeping with without protection too, and u end up endangering ur self. This niggas ain't loyal# well since u are pregnant and u can barely feed ur self I will advise u to tell ur parents about it and just be prepared to be a single mom coz even if that guy married u, he will cheat on u and treat u like shit. Even tho am a bad bitch I wouldn't advice u to abort ur baby so keep it.# bitch bye✋✋
Awwwwww and u just replied to a dumb person's comment, that makes u what then lmao. She said she uses PREVENTIVES which is not condom but DRUGS to prevent pregnancy ok little girl.Bitch I don't like wasting my time on scumbags like u coz I just loos some brain cells replying u right now, now get ur ugly black ass outa my face bitch u ain't shit# bitch bye✋✋
DeleteI don't like replying people or referencing people on this blog but jing ming I swear u are daft ddnt u read d part that says she uses protection
ReplyDeleteLeave her, she's one of those self righteous ppl who find it easy to judge ppl for what they are also guilty of.
Delete@Yesufa hmmm I like ur name. She didn't use protection(condom) she used preventive drugs.
DeleteI said it!!!!FOM!!!!!! Finally!!lolzz
ReplyDeleteAnyways don't abort the baby believe me you would be glad you didn't one day....
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It is well. Don't abort the baby because someday, the child's father will come crawling on his knees begging for forgiveness. Don't worry, God will take charge!
ReplyDeleteFive years relationship and he is asking u to abort then u were prolly dating yourself all these years.anyways pls decide whatever u want cos delay is dangerous ooh.
ReplyDeleteNothing to be scared of let's face the fact you are pregnant for him, then be ready to bear the child. Let his parents know about this.
ReplyDeleteNothing to be scared of let's face the fact you are pregnant for him, then be ready to bear the child. Let his parents know about this.
ReplyDeleteHmm d question is are u ready to face d challenges dat goes with keeping a pregnancy, I mean financially, emotional n all. Keeping d child is no big deal but u have to think about how to raise, feed n do other stuff on d other hand aborting d pregnancy is not an option either it's just bad n I don't think u will never be ok wen u do dat. D tin is its ur life u have d final decision, we all might say keep it n u just decide to do other wise but I will advise u think it through first tell his parents n wen u see their reaction den u will knw if u gonna tell ur parents or not or keeping d child. But dere is one tin u should knw a child is a blessing from God whether it's comes by mistake or willingness.
ReplyDeleteLife is not about good or bad, as much as it is choice and consequence. Think really hard about what you want, weigh the consequences, accept it, and move on. That's how it is .. Like my mum would say "Owu ije uwa" (It is the journey of life) . Be strong dear .
ReplyDelete@yusefu or what ever ur name is. whether she did use preventive or not, her decision was stupid. The family never wanted her yet she still continued with the relationship. Now whats her gain? whether she keeps d child or not, it will take the grace of God for the man to come back cos the economy is different from decades. The man stand a better chance meeting a good gurl and marry. No one investigate a man's past. this is why ladies need to wake up and be smart.
ReplyDeleteI would advise you to please face the consequences from you parent by telling them. Don't listen to him dont have any abortion and God will guide you and your child.
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