Male Blog Reader shares his Heartbreak Story

I wanna share my heartbreak story. I will try my best not to make it too long.

I broke up with my ex last year and I can't still get over it.I met my ex during my service in year in 2009, we were introduced to each other by my Aunt and the wooing process started from there. She
was difficult to win over, but I really loved her and was traveling from where I was serving to her place several times just for her to say yes to me. She finally said yes, I was the happiest man in the world then.
The relationship lasted for almost 5yrs. It ended in a way that hurt me and shook me to my very soul.

I got a job months after my service year with a private firm. The pay wasn't much but I used to send her some stipends monthly which was a big part of my income (she was still in school).
Her family know me and mine know her too. I have been to their place several times and she to my family's place too. We promised we would be there for each other forever. My facebook and twitter was full of pictures of both of us (an action I am still regretting). I lost my job d year she finished from school and things became difficult for us. There was pressure from her parents for us to get married. She was posted to a northern state near where I live, this lessened d pressure a lot.

Where she was posted to was a very dangerous place to be at that time because of the boko haram crises, but she refused redeploying. I would travel there frequently just to see her and she would come over too. Our love grew and grew and we saw my being unemployed as a phase that would pass.

 After her service year, she went back to her parents. I noticed her change in attitude, she wouldn't pick my calls and when she does, she sounds so cold and rude. I knew something was wrong. She later told me she was quitting the relationship, that she was tired of waiting, she wants to get married (that time she was 25 and I was 30). I was so devastated and I didn't know when I started crying.

Even then, I never knew that she was seeing someone else during that period. I was pleading with her to re-think her decision. That christmas was my my worst (Dec, 2013), I was going through hell but I kept it all to myself.

In January, 2014 she sent me a message on whatsapp, telling me I am the best guy she has ever met, telling she is sorry. During our conversation she told me she was seeing someone else and he took
advantage of her a day earlier, he disflowered her. She said he stuffed her mouth with clothing on  her last visit to his place and raped her.

I told her to report to the police but she refused to do so. She later told her parents according to the advice I gave her. In order to enable her cope with situation, I was still calling her and encouraging her. After a while I made her know she can't come back to me, because if it all worked according to her plan, what I would have seen was her wedding invitation.

I still love her but I can't forget the betrayal. I am pained that I may not love another woman the way I loved her. I was faithful to her,I gave her my full devotion.

 Till now, I am still hurting and I pray I get over it.