A reader just posted this in the comment section,decided to post i, hoping she can get some advice....So sad
Am in dilemma with my serial cheater hubby who sleeps with girls without condom. I have told him to leave the house as I cannot stay under the same roof with him without our fighting ( I don't want the neighbours to call the police). I was even thinking on forgiving him again as this will be the third time he is doing this and we both have two kids.
He then came to my school today threatening that I give him back my car keys , (Yes he bought the car but i pay the rent, bills , kids school fees and solely takes care of food and grocery shopping while he does things that involve huge amount of money). Thank God I called his sister who intervened because he was bent on disgracing me in school since i asked him to leave the house. ....
I have even asked him to give me the girl's number so that I can ask her to take him back because am done with him. The last he cheated on me was in 2011 and it has taken these years again to build this trust but alas here we are. He said and the girl confirmed that they both have been seeing each other for the past three months.
It's a terrible feeling for me knowing that I haven't kissed any other guy since we met in 2004 not to talk of sleeping with another guy despite the advances from men. ( Pardon my English but am in shambles now). I haven't even told my family and I can't think of telling them because of the shame of what he did. They won't disrespect him but they won't be happy with him. It's so terrible that he can sleep with another woman let alone without condom. That's indirectly saying I love to death and am ready to die with you if you hav hiv or hepatitis and am ready to start the family with her.
Pardon her shambles, bfore our english teachers wey dey here go begin insult her,she don beg ona o.*oke*
ReplyDeletePray for him even if u guys ar no more together for the sake of the kidz
ReplyDeleteAm waiting for all the low self esteem women to shout pray for him, he will surely come back to u, the other lady is just a fuck.women will tell her to endure n hope in God n the same women will cuss their fellow women who cheat n call them hoes.i wonder if women were putting on head gear when God was sharing self esteem n common sense.
ReplyDeleteCastrate him.End of story
ReplyDeleteWalk away now
ReplyDeleteMen and cheating tho... Are they not tired already?.. Sorry dear.. Shit happends
ReplyDeleteThis is serious, you shouldn't keep this burden in ur heart alone. You need to tell your families about it, pray to God and he'll instruct you on what to do next. May God be with you dearie
ReplyDeleteTalk to a pastor because that your husband is wicked
ReplyDeleteTell God
ReplyDeleteGet o. Your knees and cry out to God.he will show you the way
ReplyDeleteFor how long?
DeleteLmao really for how long. Pray my ass
DeleteIf he comes near the car,set it ablaze.Dump his sorry ass.Cheating without condom is abominable
ReplyDeleteNo shaking
Leave the marriage ASAP since you've made up your mind dear.
ReplyDeleteMarriage n it's wahala, follow ur heart n do wat u think is right. But dnt waste ur time crying for d he goat o, he doesn't need to see ur tears after all he's put u tru.
ReplyDeletemy dear drop him like he is hot!!!
ReplyDeleteu deserve better than this, make urself n ur kids happy.let d dog stray,a better man will come along!!!
Darlwyn
I dey ashawo house ı go advıce you later u hear... IT İŞ WELL
ReplyDeleteSVC fear God!!!u can do better.Hope say u carry better condoms
DeleteNo shaking
Lol
Deleteinform your family and who ever he listens to but be very careful don't take chances don't be too soft with him so he won't rest you in peace. Be very smart and make sure you stay safe with your kids men can get dangerous in situations like dis.God will help u out of dis.
ReplyDeleteKeep Praying for him cos God is the only one who can help u now.
ReplyDeleteIt's really disheartening to say the least, praying to God is not the key here, take a walk woman and save yourself the stress, God keep in me the spirit of contempt..!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you emeh for posting and thank you all for the kind advice. I will update you all on the incident.
ReplyDeleteOoh lady or girl i really pity u! and from the scenario and how u wrote i can predict this person is writing from the united states b'cus that is where husband and wife share bills in the house! however ma dear girl this is the truth of the matter from what u said how ur said husband is humping from one yansh to the other is like he is jjc b'cus that is how guys who just landed the states use to behave as they are easily carried away by the different colour,shapes and sizes of wickedly curved hips of american,jamaican,dominican republic,Spanish,cuban,colombian,russian and girls from other african countries!and to make this vry matter worse there are multitude of girls and ladies who also left their families to come and hustle for the dollars and they live alone and after work they become lonely and horny so they must definately eye ur husband who they see as the nearest person to quench their thirst and girls abroad have evrything so they don't even need his money,all they want is his lollipop,so ma dear it is their way here oo!fucking is sleeping tablet which girls here lov to take evry night!U should even be thankful they allow him(ur husband)to come back home to u b'cus those girls are ready to camp ur husband o incase u don't know most of them live in 3bedroom flat alone and the government pay for the accommodation for them so if they work it's just bonus,that's why they have enough time to drink,smoke indo,club,party and bring guys to their room to fuck them hard!as i am texting now there are lots of 9ija women inside churches and their nmber prayer point is "father lord let none of these girls see my husband"lol what if na ur husband see them nkoo? lol. Pls and pls i am begging u ma advice to u is that don't u ever make a scene with either ur husband or any of the girls so that u will not bring in police b'cus once police comes in and they write incidence report and particularly ur Name and ur social security nmber,at this point ur name goes into the police centralized domestic crime storage system which is linked to evry other government agencies and companies and at this point u will never never be able to be employed as u will not be able to work with a dainted record b'cus b4 any company employs u after u have submitted ur resume,they company will just click ur name into their system which is already linked to the police server and all ur quarrelling and fighting record will just appear and the company in their inner office will never employ u even if u are the best in that field,so ma dear u've seen no yeeyee man is worth the trouble which will make u not employable and go hungry! so make urself happy by having one guy far away that will bang ur honey pot seriously and wildly with different sexual positions that u lov and when ur husband comes home sleeping comfortably u too will just face the other side and sleep comfortably,in so doin u have solved guilt with guilt!i promise u b4 2weeks na u go dey take ur yeeyee husband do shakara b'cus him go see say u no get him time so he will come crawling!tell that ur side bobo no strings attached and that u are married he will understand!don't give him ur fone nmber u should try and memorise his fone nmber so u should be the only one calling him when u need touchlighting"!.
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Yankee based I totally agree with you(on some level tho) especially the police and employment part,that's so true. But saying she should start cheating like her husband is isn't the best of advice for her oo,cheating won't keep her husbands zipper closed,might even infuriate him and again she's got to think of the kids first,whatever decision she's taking now would definitely affect the kids all I can say is keep that man of yours in prayer and just give him space for a while and see what happens,if he's still running after women,madam kindly drop his sorry ass like a bombshell! And like a boss that you are too,all the best ma'am
Delete9BYKB....you are damn so funny and real. I read your comments and must say you sure are mature and realistic when dishing out advice. Nice one there but ummmm.....ain't down with the having a brother on the other side sha oo. Spot on.
Delete@yankeebased, i read your comment and i agree with some facts(dont go to d police,dont have any physical confrontation with your husband)but advising her to get a side guy is wicked. Two wrongs can not make a right,you dont solve a problem by creating one.Please madam just give him a break and take time to sort yourself out.I pray God grant you wisdom
ReplyDeletewell face of MPN and Obi i heard what u both said,not that i didn't know the option u guys just said but that is the advice i also used to give until i found out that most guys always think they're smart so the best thing is for the girl to be smart too and enjoy herself b'cus only the guy cannot be enjoying different pussies by banging different girls while she is acting virgin mary in pain!and i see that guys respect babes who don't give a dame!
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Men cheats for some reasons.When she give birth she loses that hawt bikini bod that gives him frequent erection anytime he see her hawt bod.She no longer takes care of her body and look awful.She lost that good curves he craved for when you were in courtship.Well,i will like to hear from the other side too.cos this story is one-sided
ReplyDeletei have noticed that this subday otun is a really daft person. his comments are always senseless and idiotic
DeleteMen nd cheating...nawa
ReplyDeleteMa'am u made d right decision by throwing him outta d house, now all u hav to do is get ur feelings together, focus on ur kids for now nd give d marriage a rest. Wit time nd some soul searching you wil know if u want to stay married or move on wit ur life!
Thank you so much. Well appreciated.
DeleteEehh Oy so u did not appreciate my own advice abii! don't worry i will not give u my solid brain advice again (laughs)!and since u have chased out that yeeyee guy inbox me ur nmber so i can come keep u company and console u < ruxty2014@gmail.com >
Deletethank God u left dat bastard called man, dat is hw my former husband cheat like tomorrow no dey he even told me if i can't bear it i should liv his house, i was even pleading wit him bcos of my dauta wellbeing. since he is d one dat graduate frm university me am frm poor home my family can only help me wit just school cert. but one day i summon courage pack my things and my dauta pik race run for my life. pls
ReplyDeletepadon my grammer. ** miss lewisky **