*Most Men won't like this ..Well* Yesterday, I had a movie date with my close friend in Lekki,Lagos.Since we were early, we took some time to checkout people and just gist in general.As usual, our conversation delved towards the issue of marriage .
As we sat chatting,we watched a few cute couples pass by, some holding hands,others just walking while keeping a reasonable distance..Some looked inlove, others not so much.And not forgetting those husbands who secretly winked at us while with their wives..smh
Then we saw this stunning couple and their daughter.At that moment,all our negative ideas about marriage took the back seat.They were just so perfect , young and looked so inlove ..They were rocking matching denim...As we kept showering praises on this couple..It hit me! They looked really familiar ....Yes,I remember this couple ...This man...The ghost from my past which won't go away.One experience which left me scarred and scared of the thing called marriage ...This was the guy from my past ..
Now, this is the experience which changed my mentality ..
In 2011,there was this newly wed couple on my friend's street .They were the envy of many.He was rich and she was pregnant of British/Nigerian origin .They lived in a duplex next to my then friend's home .From my friend's bedroom, you could have a clear view of their house.Because it was low and my friend's room was high upstairs,it became a habit to spy on the couple we admired so much.
Every evening ,say 7pm,he would return from work and his pregnant wife would be waiting for him to get his bag and give him a kiss.Despite being pregnant, she was always rocking the sexiest outfits ever..
So, on most occasions when I went to stay at her place,we had a clear view of their house from the window..(peepers)On weekends, they would go to the gym,. they would take a walk..
They were the perfect couple.I wanted a husband like him.They had recently employed a housemaid.This housemaid who was always unkempt was always running errands to the market .She happened to be sleeping with my friend's own security guy.We had caught her severally,sneaking into his room when her madam sent her on errands..Infact, she was reportedly sleeping with most of the the male helps/security guys on the street ..
One faithful evening, thanks to PHCN,there was a blackout .I was in bed while my friend went to open her bedroom window.. Suddenly,she called out to me
He opened the car boot and looked like he bought alot of provisions..So, the maid starting carrying them from the boot to the house..
Then his wife ,took his bag,and went indoors...As she left, the maid emerged from the house,went over to the car booth..
Show over, I was just about to move away from the window when it happened..Suddenly, this man dashed over to the maid who was still at the booth removing things and placing on the floor, he lifted her skirt and rammed into her..Like literally)
It happened so fast that my brain couldn't comprehend what my eyes were seeing..
..It must have taken 30 seconds of ramming into the maid when his wife appeared at the door,probably wondering why her darling husband had taken so much time outside..He quickly pulled down his shirt ,picked up one of the bags,rushed over to her,kissed her on the lips and lifted her up as they disappeared inside..
The maid was still adjusting her skirt behind the booth..pretending to drop the provisions on the floor
We must have stood by the window for 5 minutes without uttering a word...We were beyond speechless.
About one minute later, he emerged, handed something (probably money) to the maid and dashed back inside ..
At that was the end..From that day,I never looked at any couple the same ever..But they went on,acting so inlove and he would pass by his maid with a disgusting sneer..Like she was filth .But we knew,behind closed doors,this beautiful woman was married to a disgusting cheat!
I hear women say, take care of your man, feed him pamper him,make love to him whenever he pleases and he wouldn't cheat..
Sorry to burst your bubble..A man who would cheat would cheat..If you like,monitor him 2/47,feed him,make love to him 300 times daily,be the most beautiful woman in the world..If you are unfortunate to be with an unfaithful man,there is nothing you can do about it.(BUT WALK)
However, there are still men who don't cheat.Men who can't stand it.(SHOUT OUT TO THOSE RARE MEN)
Emeh, as I stand now, I really don't care about marriage ,Men are just not worth it ".She saidI agreed with her .In recent times,I have come to doubt the existence of true love and it has nothing to do with my personal experiences .
As we sat chatting,we watched a few cute couples pass by, some holding hands,others just walking while keeping a reasonable distance..Some looked inlove, others not so much.And not forgetting those husbands who secretly winked at us while with their wives..smh
Then we saw this stunning couple and their daughter.At that moment,all our negative ideas about marriage took the back seat.They were just so perfect , young and looked so inlove ..They were rocking matching denim...As we kept showering praises on this couple..It hit me! They looked really familiar ....Yes,I remember this couple ...This man...The ghost from my past which won't go away.One experience which left me scarred and scared of the thing called marriage ...This was the guy from my past ..
Now, this is the experience which changed my mentality ..
In 2011,there was this newly wed couple on my friend's street .They were the envy of many.He was rich and she was pregnant of British/Nigerian origin .They lived in a duplex next to my then friend's home .From my friend's bedroom, you could have a clear view of their house.Because it was low and my friend's room was high upstairs,it became a habit to spy on the couple we admired so much.
Every evening ,say 7pm,he would return from work and his pregnant wife would be waiting for him to get his bag and give him a kiss.Despite being pregnant, she was always rocking the sexiest outfits ever..
So, on most occasions when I went to stay at her place,we had a clear view of their house from the window..(peepers)On weekends, they would go to the gym,. they would take a walk..
They were the perfect couple.I wanted a husband like him.They had recently employed a housemaid.This housemaid who was always unkempt was always running errands to the market .She happened to be sleeping with my friend's own security guy.We had caught her severally,sneaking into his room when her madam sent her on errands..Infact, she was reportedly sleeping with most of the the male helps/security guys on the street ..
One faithful evening, thanks to PHCN,there was a blackout .I was in bed while my friend went to open her bedroom window.. Suddenly,she called out to me
Emeh Emeh,come come and see..our favorite coupleI rushed over to the window and saw the husband get down from his car and as was the tradition,his beautiful,sexy wife rushed out,kissed him on the lips,they talked for some seconds and she called out ,suddenly the maid appeared,running towards them.
He opened the car boot and looked like he bought alot of provisions..So, the maid starting carrying them from the boot to the house..
Then his wife ,took his bag,and went indoors...As she left, the maid emerged from the house,went over to the car booth..
Show over, I was just about to move away from the window when it happened..Suddenly, this man dashed over to the maid who was still at the booth removing things and placing on the floor, he lifted her skirt and rammed into her..Like literally)
It happened so fast that my brain couldn't comprehend what my eyes were seeing..
What the hell! Can you see that ?My friend said in shock
OMG this guy is ...
Sleeping with the maid ...My friend finished up my sentenceI must have been hallucinating ..Because it was dark and the angle he parked ,his booth was close to the other edge of the fence, we couldn't see clearly,but what was going on was clear to see, he was having sex with his maid who sleeps with the whole street, under the nose of his stunning wife ...He didn't even use protection.
..It must have taken 30 seconds of ramming into the maid when his wife appeared at the door,probably wondering why her darling husband had taken so much time outside..He quickly pulled down his shirt ,picked up one of the bags,rushed over to her,kissed her on the lips and lifted her up as they disappeared inside..
The maid was still adjusting her skirt behind the booth..pretending to drop the provisions on the floor
We must have stood by the window for 5 minutes without uttering a word...We were beyond speechless.
About one minute later, he emerged, handed something (probably money) to the maid and dashed back inside ..
At that was the end..From that day,I never looked at any couple the same ever..But they went on,acting so inlove and he would pass by his maid with a disgusting sneer..Like she was filth .But we knew,behind closed doors,this beautiful woman was married to a disgusting cheat!
I hear women say, take care of your man, feed him pamper him,make love to him whenever he pleases and he wouldn't cheat..
Sorry to burst your bubble..A man who would cheat would cheat..If you like,monitor him 2/47,feed him,make love to him 300 times daily,be the most beautiful woman in the world..If you are unfortunate to be with an unfaithful man,there is nothing you can do about it.(BUT WALK)
However, there are still men who don't cheat.Men who can't stand it.(SHOUT OUT TO THOSE RARE MEN)
Cool piece...marriage isn't easy at all. most times I have a second thought about it becos I just cnt deal. I just pray whoever I marry behaves himself
ReplyDeletenice write up,infact am short of words...hw can some husband stoop so low to d extend of dating their maids,it's absurd,she can do havoc to his wife...may our good Lord give we singles a man dt is God fearing nd d one's dt hav conscience,it's well
DeleteNawa oooh......some men are real dogs!
DeleteThe best thing is to go 4 a man with fear of God!
Money won't make some girls reason straight, that's y they end up with such men.
Pathetic. But there are still good men out dere
DeleteThis is terrible...@may God lead us to a God fearing man,I believe there are still good men out there and I know and I also believe that d almighty GOD will surely locate us to the right man
DeleteWords fail men. I'm scared of getting married
DeleteFear fearer fearest.....Everybody dey find rare good guys? Who tell una say them never marry? Sincerely speaking, ugly guys are the most faithful guys...OK una no want them abi...Una dey wait make Cristiano Ronaldo repent?.....#MPN ladies keep waiting
DeleteThere are still good men out there, been married 5 yrs now and i have never cheated and its not easy but i pray daily to God to guide and shield me from temptation. The girl that will marry my younger brother will very happy because he is one of a kind.
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ReplyDeleteBe educated! Make Money! Have a baby and be happy... Life is too sweet to be sad Biko!
Lol...walahi
DeleteBe educated make money get married have a baby.a child needs the father and mother.
DeleteNot all men are good and faithful husbands. In spite the challenge to know the quality ones, I can boldly say they do exist.
ReplyDeleteYeah...........@Hmmmmm as for me I don't think I can ever get a maid...Right under my roof.............I no go carry my hand carry wahala come for my house......
DeleteYeah! Shout out to d real men that "won't cheat" Dod bless ur souls
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm. Some women are also like that. I can swear to God they are still faithful men in town -Pst.Chekeleke
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely
DeleteHey bro olusoji, where have you been now? 2days
DeleteMore than 2days
Delete*God*
ReplyDeleteEmeh u re so real. Really kool piece. Girl! D sky is or limit.
ReplyDeleteyou are very correct emeh but i dont think walking away from a cheating husband is the best,the only time i advice walking away is when domestic violence is involved
ReplyDeleteTo wait and be infected with STD or something deadlier?
DeleteEmeh leave these men alone.. A man said it's in their DNA.. cheating. Am yet to come across a married man who doesn't cheat on his wife. Emeh kindly pray for God's guidance so you can end up with one of the rares. Because your eye is fixed on being s****e if you ask me.. Abeg Hakeem and other good friends of Emeh forgive me for saying that.. hehe
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Shout out to the real men!!Yea!!! Not Cheats...Nice piece dear...The best thing is for a woman to be educated,earn good money...believe me she won't be bothered about a cheating hubby!!!
ReplyDeleteMen cheat! It shouldn't be an issue
ReplyDeleteMen and Adventure...............
ReplyDeleteSome comments here make me weep for Nigerian women. So its acceptable for a man to cheat. Wow unbelievable
ReplyDeleteMay I say that the loveliest husbands at home are the smartest cheats.. Dey don't leave traces and I guess their wives can swear on their behalf.. at the end of the day, it's all God. May God help us all..
ReplyDeleteYou can say that again my dear,the lovey dovey husbands are the smartest cheat,may God help us
DeleteSome people comments are missing here.
ReplyDeleteYes Belinda and noshaking and short teeth maryam. Belinda is cheating with a 92 year old married man as we speak. For me, I have my acid on speed dial. Cheat and see nah.
DeleteThe 92 year old married man na yo husband naa..make I c d acid!
DeleteMy husband does not cheat. I GIVE HIM SEX TWICE EVERYDAY. NO ENERGY FOR HOES OUT THERE. DO IT. IT WORKS
ReplyDeleteWhy keep blaming men? Is It not women who are the willing partner, if women learn to say No! None of this will happen. When a woman decides to give in, she is invariably hurting her follow woman. We keep reading about men cheating when in actual fact women are parties to this unhealthy liaison. I think some women should be ashamed of themselves. Men are seriously having a laugh about women stupidity. Thanks Emeh for sharing,
ReplyDeleteEmeh this story get K leg abeg....Krkrkkrrk so the hubby dd it ryt there (outside, on the driveway or wateva u call it) with the maid while the wifey dashed inside, hw did he know how long will the wife take inside the house and dont they have the gate man (or the maid is the gate man orrr they use remote control 4 their gates)? Hmmm I guess the maid na 1 hot babe or she dey use KOROBELA 4 ol these men...
ReplyDeleteI talk am
DeleteYeah the story sounds fake sorry. Lol. And she saw all that?,hmm i reserve my comment. He probably was cheating but the way he quickly pulled down his shirt withoutbzipping or unzipping the trousers is still a shocker to me. Emeh, just pray for the right guy. Forget the hurt of the past. You gain nothing from withholding urself from a lovely companionship ( or trying to deter others from marriage) while the men who hurt you are off living their lives. Just do you. Be happy.pray for a good faithful man. Date. Live life.
DeleteBeta k leg,twas dark as phcn had struck again we agree bt ryt der outside?wen he knws he has neighbour's livin in duplex' around n his haus is a bungalow? Abeg make we dey fear God o, all 4gist,emeh fear God small.
ReplyDeleteEmeh Achanga get yourself a man if you don't have any and worry not yourself about cheats.. Nice write up as always..
ReplyDeleteNOTE: All dog Male/Female eats shit, but its actually the one caught eating shit is the guilty one.
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.NOTE: Raise Your Words, Not Your Voice. It Is Rain That Grows Flowers, Not Thunder..
Been married for 13yrs, a business man, travels and stays in hotels regularly and relatively comfortable financially and have never cheated on my wife not even once. I guess I must either be a non Nigerian Yoruba man or an angel.
ReplyDeleteMy point, not all Nigeria men cheat. We have quite alot of husbands that don't cheat and I know some.
May God bless me with a faithful man like you. I cant shout
DeleteWow. God bless you. Your wife is lucky oh.
DeleteC these ones.....faithful man like him? Okkk wat if he 4got 2 tel u tht he is a very ugly stingy dwarf?
DeleteBelinda, heheehehe.......U r just wicked! Haba.....Na person papa u dey curse so? Hehhehehe
DeleteBelinda believe me I'm not ugly neither am I Mr. Nigeria and I know that Nigeria girls don't care whether you're ugly or handsome once you're ready to throw some few Naira around. If I'm stingy, definitely not to my wife maybe to some girls out there and I owe them nothing.
DeleteGood reply Mr Aris . Not all men cheat. U can admire the opposite sex but it should remain there. Not easy though but with discipline and Fear of God. Its achievable. My advice for single ladies look before you leap. God will order your steps
DeleteMarriage sef dey fear me.God have mercy.
ReplyDeleteNice one Emeh.
ReplyDeleteMen don’t just cheat because their partner isn’t giving them enough.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, their partners can be giving them everything in the world, thinking nothing is wrong at have all of that come crashing down on you.
Sometimes men just do this because they CAN…
Because they WANT to, because they have boundaries they are unable to maintain…
And because they lack the respect for themselves to maintain these boundaries and the commitments they made… don't be scared. Pray for endurance
Women nko?Amy forget that thing, If a woman cheat on a man, He can never Know even if u r an Efa priest...Some ladies here think they are immune to unfaithfulness,..Just pray u Dont fall into temptation....
DeleteEvery time men did this, women did that....I don tire sef...
ReplyDeleteIts as if everyone is looking for an excuse for what they are.....U r not married..they give an excuse, Men are cheats, women are whores!...Women always acting like Unfaithfulness is a Man thing, Have u watched Cheaters?
To get married isn't a must!...After all I know a man who didn't and has kids who r happy and provided for, same with women...If u can't stomach unfaithfulness and have a strong forgiving heart, its better u remain single....
Only mature minds can handle marriage, its not for Kids...a lot can happen in any marriage, Its just a matter of can both of u moved pass it? Abi u think say to marry one person for 20,30 even 50yrs na beans?
Big cheat don speak!
DeleteMe cheat? Mbanu!.....How is ur sugar daddy or daddies? This Emeh post wan spoil business shey?
DeleteDon't mind her
DeleteI just love how we guys are demonised
ReplyDeletewhen it comes to issues like this. If I
didn’t know any better, I’d say sex/adultery was
just a guy thing and women never get
to Cheat
I feel sorry for some ladies, Cos they never had a good example of a man cos even their fathers are pigs... Some of us are privileged to be brought up by near perfect Fathers that groomed us to the men we are today... I have been married for over 5 years... Even tho some of you ladies and ur sisters drop notes and numbers on my desk at work and request for numbers for official reasons but chat trash on WhatsApp, I have been faithful to my wife
ReplyDeleteI am far from perfect.. And I am not d only guy like dat
I have several female colleagues cheating on their husband... But the world makes excuses for women when it comes to issues like this, it's always the man's that pushed her out(Double standards)
Hmmmmmm
DeleteMarriage is an institue,if u re nt matured in mind&focused ..am sorry u re in a long tin.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why people who cheat even bother to get in a serious relationship, with stuff like this you can see everything
ReplyDeletethey do and you don't even need access to their stuff! http://remotekeyloggers.net