She says her very close friend of years got married 8 months ago and since she wasn't in the country as she travelled after their university studies, she couldn't attend. Fast forward to two weeks ago, she finally came to Nigeria to see her now pregnant friend and new husband.
Now, they insisted she stay with them. Here is the issue,her friend's husband has been hitting on her. Telling her he fell in love with her at first sight And wishes she was his wife.
And when she declined in shock and asked him why he thinks she wouldn't tell her friend, he said her friend knows he doesn't love her. She pressured him into marriage etc and if she tells her, her friend would be the one with a broken heart, not him.
He has promised this lady heaven on earth as he is a wealthy man and her friend comes from an average home.
So she contemplated telling her friend but was advised by her own mum not to do it in order not to jeopardise their marriage.
She says what saddens her is, her friend believes this man is the most faithful man on earth and keeps gushing about him.She also encourages him(her husband) to take her out for movies ,to see places etc when she can't go due to her pregnant state.So, she feels it's all the times they spent together without his wife which made him start hitting on her.
I personally (Emeh) have been in this situation years ago.A friend of mine had a boyfriend she loved so dearly. When she introduced me to him and I started visiting them, he started to hit on me. Not one to hold things back, I told her. Even showed her proof of his Facebook messages.
Well, she fell out with me, not him.
In her words "what did you do that made him hit on you? You must have tempted him "
I left them alone and months later, she caught him cheating severally and broke up with him...
So, would you tell your friend their husband or wife is hitting on you or let it go?
She is returning to her base next week. Should she tell her friend and jeopardise their marriage or keep quiet.
If his serious,he should buy her a house in Lekki or Banana Island then we will take it from there.Guys and their useless excuses when they want to be foolish.Did the girl point a gun at him..Rubbish excuse
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Serz no shaking ds is d first tym u made sense 2 mi. I hv bin in ds kind of situation too I cute off completely from d two of dem after telling d friend abt her bf she called mi a home breaker she later apologized wen d guy called off d relationship bcos according 2 him d gal doesn't know how 2 satisfy him in bed.
DeleteIf she's returning back to her Base next week, why does she want to tell her friend?
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing she will say that her friend will believe and she will never leave her husband.
She should just leave them jejely and keep her distance from the husband.
What did you do to make him hit on you? All these Yankee ashawo girls.That's how I cut one's ear last time for telling me my husband toasted her.
ReplyDeleteWhat hole did you crawl out of??? I miss you plenty *wipes tear* meanwhile I think she shouldn't say a thing,some way or another her friend would still catch her husband
DeleteI wouldn't tell her, but whn I return to my base will stylishly tell her to b careful wt him.
DeleteShe should not tell her friend but Quietly record any of the conversations shes been having with him, after which when she leaves there home she can mail it to her friend. That way she wont be there when her Friend decides to drop his cheating ass
ReplyDeleteI will advise her to keep quiet,nd to distance herself frm dem wenevr she is in town,she can go nd visit dem bt nt to sleep over,d only thing she can do fr her is to pray for her,God can change d man,prayer is d key to every problem.
ReplyDeleteAbegii. All this while i was reading nd seeing 'hitting' everywhere. I thought the man have been knacking her on bed with his big daddy already.
ReplyDeleteFind another word to replace the hitting jareh
PraiseGod . Am so happy because their is no space for the wicked in Rivers State If a friend husband is hitting on you hit him by praying to God that the best solution -Pst.Chekeleke
ReplyDeleteWell,she shld distance herself from her friend cos I can't tell her to tell her friend bcos her name will 4eva b remembered as a destroyer of a good home/family
ReplyDeleteShe should just keep quiet and leave the house.. the friend may turn the table around. Jst avoid that house, and neva reply the man's msges jst incase his wife checks ur Convo Wt him.. she shouldn't try to prove anything to her friend so as not to be labelled a home breaker.
ReplyDeleteAshewo feeling funky, the tin dey sweet u die, why don't u tell her?....after all the guy said she already knows that he doesn't love her. Anyway, the guy doesn't love u, u kno naaaa
ReplyDeleteHaba bad mouth lol..
DeleteShut ur mouth and go! She'll find out the truth soon enough! I feel for that poor woman msheww
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Madam Sassy of Romance nawaaa, if they're really friends as she claim then I dont see why she shouldn't tell her abt her devil hubby
DeleteTelling your friend, face-to-face, is an honest and straightforward way to handle the problem. But doing so may make life difficult for a lot of people, including yourself. So, another option to consider is by telling your friend anonymously (setting up a free e-mail account is a very easy way to do this or using a private number to call your friend). But, if you choose this path, be sure to give enough details so that the message seems credible without revealing your identity in the process. This option, however, is not without its problems. It will create more confusion, uncertainty and stress for your friend as she tries to figure out not only if the message is true, but who sent it as well.
ReplyDeleteYou may choose to remain silent about the matter till she and her husband return to their base.
We wish you the best of luck.
It's a dicey situation. Cause it might bounce back on her if she tells the wife -her friend. It's her word vs his and she will loose her friend.
ReplyDeleteBest thing to do is to move out ASAP.
As for the husband, he ll get caught sooner or later. And she should put the young family in prayer since they also have a baby on the way.
It will be better if you don't tell ur friend but she will never believe and from ur story d girl love d guy more..just go bk to ur base very soon d girl will get to find out herself
ReplyDeleteAbeg make she shut her mouf and mind her own business ....#BizzyBody
ReplyDeleteSince she is returning back to her base no need to spill the beans, let her just keep quiet..!!!
ReplyDeleteI will advice you keep quite since you are returning to your base.. Shekinah! IT IS WELL
ReplyDeleteDon't have anything to say jor!
ReplyDeleteDon't tell ur friend any thing,just go back to ur base jejely...........@don't bring problem to their marriage
ReplyDeleteNext time y didn't u give d guy terrible warning,what kind of nonsense is that,honestly u should have given him a hot dirty slap on his face next time he won't try that rubbish with u,y did u even listen to him,he had d gods to tell u that he didn't love his wife,then y did he married her,some men shaaah I Smh..
ReplyDeleteTake it easy Sis....Thank God its nt u oo otherwise u 4 teer d guy into pieces.
DeleteHahahahaha Belinda baby,no oh trust me nah am a calm girl lol.......@Choi if that guy for try am with me ehnnnnnn,I will not even waste my precious time reporting it to my friend,I will handle his fuck up,give am hot slap wey my 5 fingers go comot for him face,make I see weting him go tell him wife for house say e happen to am,..then lastly I go so shun am ehnnnn even any time I come visiting dem I won't even notice he exist he will die of heart attack un to my maganna...
DeleteRubbish I for slap him in front of his wife tins like dis irritates me nonsense so in his mind u re dat kind girl abi rubbish slap him publicly rubbish long hisssss .daliah
ReplyDeleteMy dear u should not tell ur frd just distance ur self from dem since u going back to ur base next week cos with wat u wrote I don't think she will believe u if u tell her so just keep quiet till u go back n also pray for ur frd
ReplyDeleteHe's definitely tired of eating egusi soup and used his nonsense trick to get u so can taste a little of Okra soup. Buh if I were u, i'll tell my frnd. So dat e no go bak fire.
ReplyDeleteSadly this is becoming a sad trend in which men hit on their Ladys' friends when given the slightest opportunity..Thank Stars she didn't fall for his cheap ways. I'll advice her nut to tell her friend but rather point out that the friend be more careful in trusting the husband wholeheartedly. Hope I made some sense
ReplyDeleteWats d need of telling her frd,she shld just go and leave dem,later d frd would find out herself,as for d man which kind stupid love at first site,some men useless shaa,because of sex
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ReplyDeleteThat's girls problem, not mine.
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