I'm a frequent reader of your blog and i must say your doing a very great job. I'm in a situation right now and i need your advice. I have been in a relationship for 3 years now and things haven't been so great but we thank God.
This is my first long term relationship and am surprised i stayed this long .I'm the type of girl that doesn't fall in love easily but this time i did. Well straight to the point, my boyfriend is seeing a girl that he claims he asked out 3 years ago before he asked me out.
The first time i found out ,i was so pissed and decided to end the relationship but he begged and even called his father to plead with me.He called the girl a bitch and all sort of negative names and promised it would never repeat itself. i forgave him because i spoke to his dad and he assured me everything would be fine.
I have found out so many other times that hes still seeing the girl and this time i have had it up to my neck. We recently moved to a new apartment and after we moved i travelled home. I'm back now and i snooped in his phone. i found a video of him and the girl in this our new apartment which means his still seeing her and brought her to our new house.We stay together in the same apartment and i know about all his movement so whenever am not in town he's always hooking up with her. I'm totally fed up about this matter. when i confronted him about the issue he said he cant
cut all connections wit the girl and moreover hes a guy and he can do whatever he wants to do so if am planning on doing anything i can go ahead and am the one that would loose. i have made a lot of sacrifices that has affected me both positively and negatively and put a lot of efforts into this relationship and i don't know what to do about it anymore.I'm not the type of woman that confronts a girl over a man because i believe the problem is from the man cause hes staying in contact with the girl which is giving her green light.I'm totally fed-up, Please i need your advice....
cut all connections wit the girl and moreover hes a guy and he can do whatever he wants to do so if am planning on doing anything i can go ahead and am the one that would loose. i have made a lot of sacrifices that has affected me both positively and negatively and put a lot of efforts into this relationship and i don't know what to do about it anymore.I'm not the type of woman that confronts a girl over a man because i believe the problem is from the man cause hes staying in contact with the girl which is giving her green light.I'm totally fed-up, Please i need your advice....
For him to even admit and say it to ur face, girl u need to move on. He doesn't love u at all or maybe he's tired. U can go pay ur boyfriend a visit for one or two weeks but staying with him when u guys aren't married can cause "see finish"
ReplyDeleteExactly that's what happened the guy don see you see finish. See yo mouth like u live together in the same apartment. U got what u deserve
Delete@Anon 15:55 ITK! are you perfect? Like seriously??? She's not asking for insults. If you can't advice, then please lock up!!
DeleteThis story sounds so familiar.. But well, you know what's good for you.
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Walk out frm the whole drama...
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Get the hell out of the relationship girl.he's too stupid nd not worth Ur love or sacrifice. I mean wtf!!!!!!
DeleteEby nwamama. Alright, ere goes. @ poster, i think you already know what you have to do. You just need the encouragement, now..... Run for your dear life. Even if he comes back with his ancestors to beg u, no gree. Run away from that emotional blackmailer . Overall, keep prayin for God's grace to move on
DeleteGod is already telling you dat u shld walk out of d r/ship. 3yrs is long though,but a failed r/ship is beta than a failed marriage. Pls,stop wasting ur tym wit dis so called boy,leave him and move on,it mite not b easy but dats d plain truth.Ladies,stop being ur boyfriends cleaner,dishwasher,washing machine,market woman or even cook,odawise u loose ur self worth! God wil giv u a man dat wil cherish and love you!
ReplyDeleteGbam! When you are everything to him and always there for him without him asking, he may never pop the question and will eventually get fed up. Living with a guy who is not married to you is not wise cos he you help him get everything he needs without asking and on a platter of gold too.
Deleteu keep saying "our" everything. The guy isn't even married to u sef. Giving a boyfriend husband benefits leads to "see-finish" syndrome. You better be firm in your actions and move out, cos ur boyfriend has no respect for u. He isn't scared of losing u, otherwise he wuld not flaunt his other relationship to ur face. You won't die without him. that guy dosn't value u. I advise u to move cos such a person isn't worth it. The same sweet words and lies he tells u abt the other girl , is what he will still tell her abt u. He's just fooling u. so u better flee cos nothing good comes out of such guys. Even if marries u, he'll still flaunt his extra marital affairs at ur face. Love is not blind. Rather we choose to be blind. Sidon look na dog name. you'll be there he'll impregnate another girl. First of all U better move out of that house and try to be independent cos u'r losing value by the day there as long as he's not married to u.
ReplyDeleteWhat can i say to you miss??? you've said it all and more sef,God bless you for that comment. My dear poster,all i can say is move the hell out of that house. He even had the guts to keep a video??? naaaa!! like my ma says; "what is rightfully yours will definitely find its way back". i kmow its hard but God be with you and your strength.
DeleteGood advice, I agree with u.
DeleteDear Poster move out of the apartment u share together first. U can leave without him. He doesn't love u, cos if he did he wouldn't have started started a relationship with d other girl. Move on dear, no one is indispensable.
Or better still kick him outta d apartment, so sure u paid for it. Hw in d world wud u stand a guy dat said to ur face u ave mor to loose? Wat d heck? He has serious guts, my sister get him out of ur life as soon as possible n if he's urs wil realise his mistakes n come begging if nt, gud ridiance to bad rubbish. Stop reducing ur sef worth for any he goat.
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DeleteU r keeping it real Alwayz a LaDy
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Move on with your life. Biko dump him
ReplyDeleteWhat advice are you still waiting for?
ReplyDeletePlease, sweetie,do yourself a favor and walk out now, before it's too late. Thank God you're not married yet.
Sweetie move on!!!!!there are better guys out there!!!!! BTW Face of Mpn is dat you???Lil*giggles*
ReplyDeleteviv if i catch that your tiny cricket-like legs eeeeeeeh??!!!! hehehe! naaa so not me. Hakeem/SVC wouldnt treat me so *wide grin*
DeleteAnd Face of MPN be here dating 2 guys at d same time..!! Dear poster... You need me say more? Beleive me if you don't walk away this min, your next story will be that he's started beating you up... Take a walk Gf....!!!
Deletebelinda u better leave dat toxic relatnship o,hu told u his dad talked 2 u,lolz,na him grownup frnd nai talk 2 u o,well som pple say fight 4 ya relatnship like annie idibia so if u can plz do afterall u d main chick bt dats a noooo for me cos am extremely jealous doh nt a gud one sha bt cant help it,am out
ReplyDeleteWhy are here asking us what to d? A guy is openly cheating on you and you don't know what to do. He will continue doing the same shop don't bother to pray that he changes. Good has open the eyes so don't expect God to answer your prayer on him. Leave the loser and find someone else. I don't want you say all guy cheat because you will find one that will respect you and will never try it or do it openly
ReplyDeleteUr bf tld u u'l lose if u leave him nd dt u shud do wat u like nd u r stl dere?whrez d self respect?sweetie,u better pick up sm self esteem n stp hurting urslf
ReplyDeleteBabe, he doesn't Respect you at all and he doesn't love you, I understand how you feel about all the sacrifices but you just have to left go and move on, A broken relationship is better than a broken home. I'm not saying it's gonna be easy after you've made up your mind, but trust me it's gonna b worth it. Good radiance to bad rubbish. You ding even need all that drama
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DeleteJust walk out quietly
ReplyDeleteAs simple as ABC. Cheat on him openly too.
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@Wiz two wrongs that make a right; I will just suggest she should move on with her life.
Delete*wrongs don't make...
DeletePls just end d relationship,period.
ReplyDeleteEnd what relationship? She is in a Situationship
DeleteBlog Reader, I don't care how this makes you feel.....Take your belongings and leave that so-called boyfriend of you. Trust me you'll find a better person who will appreciate you the moment you decide to dump his silly ass. He's inconsiderate and self-centered.
ReplyDeleteFemale reader, it seems your relationship has hit the rock and there is no point trying to mend it. If he insist can't cut off his relationship with the other lady, pls just jejeli move on.
ReplyDeleteWell my dear walk away from such relationship cos is leading to distruction,we are guys and we know the next line of action when fellow guy starts acting up this way the lord is your strenght as you move on with ur life ur blessed.
ReplyDeleteDear poster this is end result of type1 error u commented three year ago . There re three things involve in this story (1) is either karmal is playing back ,( 2) . Maybe u re doing what is expected of u , cuz u only tell us ur story we have not hear u boyfriend on .( 3). Maybe u d fantasy type with it syndrome.
ReplyDeleteMy advise for u just working on urself. Make ur a subject matter , make urself the ideal woman very man is looking , when u do all this the guy will be the one to regret if he loose u. Ur boyfriend no send u . It is possible u don't find this kind of guy again in ur circle
took time to read your post over and again, first I want to tell you its your fault, and only u can fix it, firstly what business do you have with his father? is his son engaged to u? NO, so why would you listen to him? if a man can keep ties with a girl he met three years before you, and still keeps with her 3yrs with you, that's six years, then what exactly do you think u mean to him? to everyone who reads this, the only reason you should forgive anyone who CHEATS ON YOU TO YOUR FACE IF YOU AINT MARRIED? IS if the reason for cheating is DEAD! if its not you must move on, once a man can disrespect you and still convince you to stay aftrr you said you are leaving, you are done, I don't even want to talk abt the fact that you live with him, you may also have had an abortion for him, dear lovely you, you should reevaluate your self respect and dignity if it's worth , paying the rent for another woman to come sleep on your bed then pls stay, otherwise, send us a mail that you have moved on, I always say if you deserve better you wouldn't accept lesser!
ReplyDeleteIf u have any dignity left, u better liv d rlshp, but if u wnt to cry, u can stay except u dnt deserve better
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't deserve you, back off
ReplyDeleteBabe, there's no need seeking for advice. The writing on the wall is so clear and legible. Just move on already. The guy doesn't respect you so pack your bags and leave before he starts beating you up. It is well with you.
ReplyDeletePls who has seen our provost(No shaking)? It's been a while I saw any of her comments.
She went to the shoe market!
DeleteWomen self. Una problem pass Ebola problem. Ur papa nd mama no get house?
ReplyDeleteGet the hell out...
ReplyDeleteMove on with ur life, u deserve better than that trash!
My dear poster pls and pls waka leave am oh....he doesn't respect u at all..if u think u can manage and cope also think ahead if eventually u marry this guy wht u are experiencing now u will surely experience it again oh...don't let his sugar mouth scope blind u oh...there are thousand and one better guys out dere that's ready to respect and cherish u with all his hrt...be strong d LORD will see u through Amen
ReplyDeleteGirl abeg go büy NIKE shoe run commot from the relationship.. IT İŞ WELL
ReplyDeleteIf u leave the guy nau what make u think u will get another one or even the one u will get will not be worse than him... u have to take RISK in this situation , not easy oooo it easier said than done, everybody is advising u to break up him babe u better re-think
ReplyDeleteSonzo what is the meaning of this your comment? So she should stay with that pig that calls himself a man just because she wants a boyfriend?
DeleteSolonzo: Just hope you are okay cos this advice of yours sounds crazy.
DeleteBut before I go further please answer the ff wuestions: Where are you from? Are you male or female?
So sorry darling...you don't need this baggage in 2015 ooo.... one better Bobo, is waiting for 2015 to come b4 he can ask ur hand in marriage. plssssssss DUMP THIS SORRY ASS! Before you miss better something ooo! You won't forgive yourself if you do. Tthe earlier you do alt+ctrl+del the better for you..make sure you send me ur wedding iv(thats if you make dright choice n dump this dolo!)
ReplyDelete@Solonzo you can ask the poster to give ur sister the guy abeg! See advise! What plaanet are you frm eh!
ReplyDeletePlease please you don't need him, he is just using you, Um sorry to tell you right now he is planning to marry the other girl that he called bitch just to make you smile and think you're all that.
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