Hi, I'm one of your regular blog readers and I comment most times. I have a problem and I need advice from your blog readers. I'm at a crossroad now and don't know what decision to take.I met this guy late 2011. Made a mistake by having sex with him on our first date. It resulted into pregnancy. He never wanted the baby because he wasn't ready financially. I refused to abort. Pregnancy wasn't smooth because of my refusal to abort but I still carried on.I gave birth to my son Nov 2012. March 2013, he came to me and said he couldn't continue with the relationship.
He said he would send money 4rm time to time for the upkeep of our son which most times, I'll have to drag and beg for the money. He met another lady almost immediately and they were planning to get married but he couldn't make up his mind because according to him he was scared. He kept on coming back to me.January this year, he said he wants us to come back together. He wants us to be united as a family. he's bin begging since den till now. Last week,I asked about his fiancée, he said I should give him time to sort tins out with her. I told him he can't eat his cake and have it.
He has to choose who he really wants to be with between both of us. He said I should be patient. I still have feelings for him. Will it be wrong to give him time as he asked? I'm really confused.
I need advices nt abuses. I knw I've made series of mistakes so don't make it harder by condemning me. Thanks a million
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He has to choose who he really wants to be with between both of us. He said I should be patient. I still have feelings for him. Will it be wrong to give him time as he asked? I'm really confused.
I need advices nt abuses. I knw I've made series of mistakes so don't make it harder by condemning me. Thanks a million
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Try and be financially independent. Or ask him to set up a business or something for you as a guarantee that you should wait. Don't wait with an empty stomach
ReplyDeleteTry and be financially independent. Or ask him to set up a business or something for you as a guarantee that you should wait. Don't wait with an empty stomach
DeleteJust be patient, you have nothing to lose. But don't put your mind
DeleteGive him time he may still get married to you just like Peter Okoye did also Tuface did the same thing. ..............mummy Ada
ReplyDeleteait for him.You already have a baby together but you must be prepared for some drama. Just pray the fiancee doesn't become a baby mama while you wait. May the God of Annie Lola and Anita guide you.As for me, no time
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ReplyDeleteWait na n c hw it goes,but dnt put ur mind so u dnt get hurt/disappointed + b independent,u cnt b disturbing him 4 moni all d tym wen u decided 2 keep d baby
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ReplyDeleteEmeh dat picture of baby/daddy slip cracked mi up ooo
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DeleteJst be patient abit dear.But trust mi,Dnt put all ur eggs in one basket
ReplyDeleteBe patient and wait. Where do you go with one kid and from your letter, you aren't too financially sound. Now back to Emeh, did you have to add that last pic lmao
ReplyDeleteAlthough sex is sweet.why do you say you made a mistake by sleeping with him?Aint you horny before you let him "hit it"?Get a job.the guy needs to be financially stable before he can provide for you and his kid.money aint easy to find in this part of the world.
ReplyDeleteI av a job n also av an apartment. I stay alone with the baby. I've bin takin care of M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ son alone since he left.
ReplyDeleteI av a job n also av an apartment. I stay alone with the baby. I've bin takin care of M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ son alone since he left.
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Ol then, be patient. Since he is having 2nd thoughts about the other lady, it means he doesn't really love her. But don't put all your hopes there
ReplyDeleteEmeh this daddy/mama stuff is so fucking funny... Ok back to the matter, yu really made me proud for not aborting the baby at first and to be frank yu have really been patient and believe, a little bit of patient wont hurt but is really up to yu to decide if yu are fed up and want to move on but like yu said yu love the guy and ur son needs his dad if tho yu dont knw it, so just give him that chance to see hw things turns out.....
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@edDREAM so u can give dis kind of nice comment. Always thot u were nuts!
DeleteHmmm..u met this guy late 2011,had sex wid him on d first date and it resulted in pregnancy ..u gave birth in November 2011..it dates dont add up,what are u not telling us??..well i can tell from ur story that u r acting desperate and he sees it..Value urself lady..dont give a guy an ultimatum..if u feel that u have to prove ur worth to a guy even after having his child, then surely he doesnt know what he has..we ladies sell ourrselves out so cheap..even d bible says that 'he that FINDETH a wife findeth a good thing'..it didnt say we ladies r supposed to hunt men down and give dem ultimatums..stop trying so desperately to prove ur worth to a man who didnt deem it fit to marry u when he had to resources to..if u dont marry him,u wont die..u will marry anoda who cherishes u more..if u ask me,i dont think that man knows what he wants..u can go ahead and waste ur time by waiting..na u sabi ...its ur life!
ReplyDeletemy dear just be patient, if really he loves u then he will come back for you, i understand ur situation very well cos am also going thru same buh mine is already married to the new lady and i have since moved on with my life. just chill and as advised go get something doing abeg dont depend on him. thumps up to all mothers.
ReplyDeleteIf you are not in another serious relationship for now, just be there, if he comes you take him if not move ahead with your life. Don't have high hopes. Even if he comes back, study him well to be sure he is there for real so he won't abandon you the 2nd time. There is a possibility that he is coming back because of his baby not really because he loves you.
ReplyDeleteYou have to be independent as a single mom, for the sake of your son you have to wait for him to decide but as you are waiting you have to do something so you dont end up like Mr matthew Knowles baby mama. Its your son am so thinking about,growing up without a fatherly love. You have to be prayerful too.
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good story dear bare your cross
ReplyDeleteU can wait if u wish. It all depends on u. He left d first tym,wat makes u think he won't leave again? Dnt marry him out of sentiment cos there is a long way ahead.
ReplyDeleteLmao @ last pic. No be small mata.Poster follow your heart
ReplyDeleteLOL @ God of Baby Mamas. They are brave women but God of...? Oh, Jehovah! Some of these stories should be paid for to be hosted on this blog. I think that you probably slept with somebody's boyfriend and planned to marry him but it didn't work out. He decides except you go and beg the other lady for forgiveness.
ReplyDelete@savvy berry, I didnt slip with anybody's boyfrnd. He started datin ha afta he left me.
ReplyDeleteTnx evryone 4 ur advice, I'm veri grateful. I feel much better nw after sharing the story n reading your advice. I called him n told him it wunt wrk out btw both of us. I'm nt emotionally ready for any relationshp nw. It's obvious he still loves the oda lady. He wuz only trying to cum bak because of hs son. I dnt need such a man. I need a man who will love n cherish me for who I am. He said ok ₪☺ problem.
Tnx alot frnds 4 being there 4 ♍ƺ. I'm grateful
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You are welcome
DeleteDear Poster, glad to know you have decided to move on with your life. It's pointless being with a man who considers you a second choice. If he really loved you, he wouldn't think twice about being with you. No excuses. Be strong, face your child and move on with your life dear. It's excellent you have a job so you are not financially dependent on him.
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U are welcome dear..trust me,he doesnt deserve you and he doesnt know what he wants..u will find anoda that is worthy of ur love
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