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Sunday, 19 January 2014

Is this enough reason to divorce my husband?

Hello Emeh, will appreciate your readers advice on this. I'm in a mess.I'm 25 years old.  I met a man online  in 2010 In 2011, he came from the USA and we  got married and he promised to do my papers so I can meet him in the USA. When he left, I found out I was pregnant so he said it would be difficult to get me to come until I give birth. I gave birth in 2012 and he came 6 months after our son was born. He then said the child was too young for me to travel with. He suggested we wait till the child is 1 year. That's late 2012. He decided I should open a saloon to keep myself busy.
He left with promises to come back for me.He hasn't shown up. Besides I can't call him, he calls me.His phone is always off at nights( their time)

I met a young man and we hit it off. He has told me my husband is probably married and wanted to have a child by an African woman.
He says he is prepared to marry me because he loves me.I am falling for him too. My husband has told me he is having some issues so I have to wait again till September 2014 to join him.
I don't want to waste my time and lose this man who wants to marry me with a kid. Also I can't get married to him when I haven't asked for a divorce.
I want to ask my husband for a divorce. Am I wrong?  
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35 comments:

  1. Ugo Boss™✅19 January 2014 at 13:49

    Am no judge ..u r old enough to knw what's right for u #pray

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    1. Desmond 2 d G19 January 2014 at 14:29

      #pray....... no body is perfect bt we alwyz try working towards perfection..#seek God intervention #Sikena

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    2. finest loves Bloglord😍19 January 2014 at 21:06

      Dat ur husband is a liar,he's been lying to u along nd giving u all dis flimzy excuses,girl u shud av phantomed this all along,are u dis dumb? Probably u wia too excited he's based abroad smh,,anyways dnt rush into divorcing him,if u av people in d us dat can help u find out more abt dis man,,sumtin tells me he's married with kids,nd wen u do, if u knw u can't deal with d deceit,lies u can nw file for a divorce,dnt be a desperate woman nd jump into anoda marriage,without confirming this things,if dis ur new catch loves u dat much he'd wait nd probably help as well #my two cents though

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    3. Nitty-Gritty22 January 2014 at 17:43

      Agree with you beautiful val.

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  2. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 14:01

    For better for worse oh.Stay in your marriage forever

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    1. JustPorsh19 January 2014 at 16:58

      Even when the marriage's a farce?!

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    2. ChiChi19 January 2014 at 21:20

      Stay in what??? It's terrible advisers like you that lead people to regret their lives. Please send him a letter immediately. Ask your parents to return the bride price immediately, go ahead and befriend this new guy. Make sure you close the salon and hand the keys over to his parents. Don't be quick to marry the new guy though. You need air. Try to start a business or get a job incase of anything. Don't be quick to get pregnant because I can see that you like to make hasty decisions. Once you've severed the marriage traditionally ensure that you move out of your current location. Make sure you get a JOB!!!! DONT GET PREGNANT. Leave that crazy user of a man. He's married abroad and you're the back up plan

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    3. ChiChi19 January 2014 at 21:32

      Stay in what??? It's terrible advisers like you that lead people to regret their lives. Please send him a letter immediately. Ask your parents to return the bride price immediately, go ahead and befriend this new guy. Make sure you close the salon and hand the keys over to his parents. Don't be quick to marry the new guy though. You need air. Try to start a business or get a job incase of anything. Don't be quick to get pregnant because I can see that you like to make hasty decisions. Once you've severed the marriage traditionally ensure that you move out of your current location. Make sure you get a JOB!!!! DONT GET PREGNANT. Leave that crazy user of a man. He's married abroad and you're the back up plan

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    4. Anonymous20 January 2014 at 06:30

      Nice one@Chichi

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  3. Unknown19 January 2014 at 14:07

    To me I guess ur husband has not been truthful enough and as for you did u find out things about him in the US or u were just carried away bcos he lives there. The deed is done already and right now u need a lot of wisdom to pull through situation. Ask God for guidance and he will help u.

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  4. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 14:07

    Endtimes

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    1. Meg19 January 2014 at 17:03

      Is 25-26 the internet age for women? Smh....poster life isn't ever fair...tread with caution

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  5. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 14:07

    Haba!!!! Do ur investigations well and pray well about ur new man b4 proceeding! Btw,ur husband doesn't strike me as a responsible fellow and u can divorce him cos tis obvious he's not dt into u cos who leaves his wife and his Healthy Baby BOY!

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  6. Ify19 January 2014 at 14:11

    I once married a he-goat who lived in the UK. Never knew the bastard was married with kids.Foundout 5 years later but I didn't divorce him immediately. I made sure I lured him to build a house for here, he sent the money and I tool my children and myself to Canada and shocked his broke ass. Don't divorce when you don't have a backup plan and financial security for your child.

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    1. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 18:21

      Ify ooh... you are indeed a brilliant woman. Lool

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    2. ChiChi19 January 2014 at 21:27

      After reading ify's thoughts, I'd like to modify the comment I dropped above. Don't divorce so quickly until you get something from him but many people aren't lucky at getting things from people. So if u feel like you don't need from him, I reiterate, GET A JOB! Incase this new guy starts to act up. Be surprised at nothing o! People can change.

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    3. ChiChi19 January 2014 at 21:27

      After reading ify's thoughts, I'd like to modify the comment I dropped above. Don't divorce so quickly until you get something from him but many people aren't lucky at getting things from people. So if u feel like you don't need from him, I reiterate, GET A JOB! Incase this new guy starts to act up. Be surprised at nothing o! People can change.

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    4. Nitty-Gritty22 January 2014 at 17:45

      smart move Ify!

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  7. success igbinoba19 January 2014 at 14:22

    I don't tink u investigated ur husband before getting married to him n dat was d first mistake u made,I don't tink u invited jesus before getting married. fyn u married to him n u have a child already. My advise to u is to go to God in prayers n ask for wisdom n grace to go about ur life n as for dat other guy I don't tink he's serious oooo but u own ur life n u knw wats best for u. Well my advise is to go to God in prayers n ask for wisdom,grace n wat to do. May d lord be with u. Amen

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    1. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 23:45

      Ure a FOOL'sucksex' igbinoba give person advice and ure here yarning dust why are naija peeps so senseless eh? @poster pls mke sure u have a back up plan wch entails financial security for ur B and get urslf a JOB.tke ur time and study the new guy and also ask God for guidance.cheers!

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  8. ALIVE MARK19 January 2014 at 14:32

    Infact, u better marry the man who u've seen phsically n agree to marry u than waiting 4 a ghost husband b4 it.will be too late dear. And again go close to GOD n be prayerful noting like divorce or no divorce.

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  9. M19 January 2014 at 15:23

    Leave the man and marry the one you see

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  10. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 15:38

    Investigate ur husband 1st!!! Find out about his life there. He may be married. Then keep the new guy close, pray too

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  11. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 15:48

    Ūя̲̅ husband is nt rily straight forward..n most men wit such behaviors r married wit kids else hε̲̣̣rε̲̣̣,little wonder he kips postponin Ūя̲̅ comin 2 d UK...I'll advice D̶̲̥̅̊α̲̅τ̲̅ u think things thru thorougly b4 u divorce him..n pls b financially stable 4 Ūя̲̅ child's sake,dnt solely divorce him on d ground D̶̲̥̅̊α̲̅τ̲̅ u'v found sum1 else bt instead do so cos it gives u peace of mind..Gudluck!

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  12. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 16:37

    Na Anwuli short advise I dey wait. For me, wait till september. If there's another excuse, u have joined d league of abandoned wives in nigeria. If the other guy truly loves u, he shouldn't rush u. There is one thing common between both men though, they are attracted to your person either through your looks or personality and they want to hurriedly be a part of your life. Its a spiritual problem

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  13. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 16:58

    hmmm,ur husband eh



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  14. Oyinkansola19 January 2014 at 17:19

    B very sure ur hubby's doing sumthing bad ova there nd jez tying U here and be sure abt d nu guy's sincerity

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  15. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 17:45

    I wnt advice u. Ill jus tel u ure a big fool...hope som girls learn from ur story but sadly enuf dey wnt. Im actually 26 but stil not maried. Ive had lots of suitors comn from abroad but I get sense pass dem...I dnt wnt to go into lng details but d borderline is dey are lik ur husband. I saw dem comn but d problm wit som of our girls is bein blinded by wat dey see. Dey lov lies too evn wen dey knw its false...sort ursef out babe. Im stil chiln for d ryt man. I wnt rush into marriage...

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  16. Unknown19 January 2014 at 18:20

    How many times do we see this? A man jumps into naija from abroad marries a geh and runs back, u can't marry anoda while still married and even if u wanna divorce him? He still has to sign which means he has to be present, I would advice u wait till he returns and then decide what u want for ur self, uv mad one careless decision don't make it two.

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  17. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 18:40

    De truth is d@ ur husband is married 2 a whitelady.my advice is d@ u dhuld wait till september b4 u file 4 divorce.deraa

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  18. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 19:58

    Hmmmmmmm...is either u are ibo or edo!! Na their girls dey do abroad yeye marriage all bcos of money!!! If u can wait,fine!! If not,go ahead and marry d one u see!!.......OKIJA WIFE

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  19. Anonymous19 January 2014 at 22:06

    My dear
    Most times things are not usually the way it seems. Your hubby might be having issues with his paper or other legal issues that you ain't aware of. Pray about it ask God to direct your steps . You might make a hasty decision now and find out later that that it was not what you thought.people are having serious issues here regarding getting there papers. I know someone here who went to apply for his citizenship after the two years conditional stay he had expired only to have his legal residence status revived because he had a DUI . People he left behind in Nigeria will be over there abusing him not knowing what he is going through. He has been on this issue for more than five years now.

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  20. joy20 January 2014 at 00:19

    Well my advice. To you is to hire a private detective over their give him all your husband detail and see what he found out. make sure you collect money from your husband indirectly to pay the detective and if he is found wanting. Have all your legal papers ready for him by September to divorced him and please don't confront him over the phone so that he won't changed his mind about coming over.

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  21. Anonymous20 January 2014 at 03:34

    He is fooling you. The process would have been faster when you were pregnant. Fastest sef.

    Everuthing is online in america. Google his state court online. If he is married, his name will be there. You will find his wedding certificate online. Download and save a copy. When next he comes, show it to him. Bigamy is an offense so your marriage to him will be annulled.

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  22. Anonymous21 January 2014 at 08:21

    Hi' I wish I could glanc
    e through all this comments but hell no I got upset along the glancing. People think cause the guy is abroad makes him a bad person for giving u different reason or stories. Anyway most of this readers here are singles and most of them never even had no serious relationships no offence, so what advice do u expect from them? U know it. What I will tell you is do ur findings about your husband, and focus on u guys kid and the small buisnes he gat you. The new guy properbly liked something about you for now, u never know tommorow. Guys can say I love you or I will marry you just to get a smile on your face, it doesn't mean nothing to them. Pray and do ur real findings, ur husband might be working on making it better for u and the kids b4# u join him. Maybe he needs few month to change his stay to nationality. Think what u gain or loose.

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