Blogger's Diary- Dumped for Fame

It was one of those rare days I decided to take sometime off,chill out. Someone famous who I hadn't seen in a long time invited me to a cool spot in Lekki,Lagos for an informal business meeting...
We just walked in when I heard my name

 "Emeh Emeh, is this you?" I turned around and Lo, there she was...The girlfriend of a popular presenter with an entertainment network channel.

"Janice it's been ages. How are you doing "? I know you are
chopping money now. Your boo is on a roll" I said quickly scanning the rather empty lounge for a sight of him

Her face seemed to wear a sudden sadness.

"Hmmn my dear Emeh,its a long story. You look good by the way and I love your perfume "

I blushed. I'm a sucker for compliments. Suddenly a man signalled at her .

"Emeh  we will discuss .Give me a minute"

I had barely settled into the comfy sofa when my friend said " How did you know Janice(fake name) "? 

"She is the friend of a popular presenter now.I told him his name**This girl suffered with that guy oh.I'm really happy for her.She's now reaping the fruits of her labour"
"Enjoying the fruits of her labour by serving drinks here"?‎
What! Serve where? 

I turned around and lo! Janice was serving drinks ‎to the man who had earlier whistled at her. She then came over to our
table and took our requests. That was one of the most awkward situations of my life. I was trying to comprehend what was happening. Was this her place? Was she helping out

Then,my friend told me she was the sales girl employed by his friend who owned the place. He also attested to her lovely character saying she was a very courteous girl ‎.After she served us,she saw the perplexed look my face wore.I then asked her to show me the rest room which she did gladly and that was my opportunity to ask her what was going on.

"Emeh,hmmn..He dumped me oh! As soon as he got that job, he dumped me. Infact,dumping me would be better. He just didn't say anything. Didn't pick my calls again. I gave  him everything.I ‎gave him my life. Years I can never reclaim. I lived his dreams but what did he do once he became famous and started hanging with stars? He dumped for for another girl.A presenter too."

At this point, she burst into tears and I just couldn't bring myself to console her. I was Speechless. If he could do that to her,then any man could dump any girl. I mean,this guy used to adore this girl. He worshipped her. I give it to him, he was much more handsome and looked above her league when they started dating.

That was why I felt it was love. I had just moved into Lagos almost 5 years ago when they were already dating ‎.I was enthralled by their chemistry,the way he looked at her,the way he seemed not to notice any girl around him. We met at a studio for a shoot and those days I was trying to go into
modelling with my 5ft 5 height lol. I just felt Lagos was a 

land flowing with milk and honey and I was going to be a supermodel. 

I was one of the hundreds of girls who came for the audition. I was selected and it turned out to be for his video. I was honestly taken by him. He had the swag of Dbanj‎,was infectious and very handsome. So honestly every girl had her eyes on him until Janice emerged and he stuck to her like glue,introducing her as his girl,and all.

So I was on the phone having a conversation in hausa when I was done with the call, she spoke to me in hausa. And we just hit it off. He came and was happy to know I could speak his girl's dialect too and we all became pals. 

There and then we laughed about the girls acting all thirsty for him.
He gushed about his love for her and all and how they have been through alot together. How she has sacrificed for him and if he ever makes it in entertainment, she would be his queen. Yes,she was his queen until last year...Her loud sobs jolted me from my momentary flashback and I summoned the courage to ask her in detail what they broke up,if she did something wrong. Because I couldn't believe this was a guy who still talked about his love for her about a month before his dream job.‎

"Emeh, he just left me. Look at me? I'm lucky to be alive. I have no one, no boyfriend.He just stopped picking up my calls,moved out ‎and is now dating someone. As a matter of fact, a few days ago, I heard he was in the next club here,I went there just to see him and I saw him with his girlfriend,and some celebrities. They were allover eachother I called and he didn't pickup. I have cried, starved and I thought time would make me.heal"

I summoned the words and said ‎

Janice, I believe something is wrong somewhere. Maybe he is just playing around, you know how men are,he would come back.*silently I castigated myself for such a dumb advice* I will personally talk to him.

She laughed

Emeh,if he was playing around, atleast he would pick my calls, he would see me.At first, he avoided me then maybe after three months ‎of not picking,he would call me up to meet him somewhere, then have sex with me and then promise to call.He never does again and won't pick up my calls"

I was honestly pissed. I silently resolved to call him and have a heart to heart. She then said she had to get back to work before they start looking for her. I then tried my last feeble attempt at consoling her

"My dear, be strong. In fact you can do better than him. Maybe he is not meant for you.We are ladies, we are strong. In fact I promise you, you will find a man who would make you see him as a child's play. In fact I promise you by the time he comes back to beg,you won't care about him because you would be inlove with another"

She burst into ‎fresh sobs *my eyes widened in shock* 

"Emeh whyyyy whyyyy who will love me when I got a big tattoo of his name on my whole back"

My mouth hung open,finding a man to love her would be more complicated than I thought.I was desperately thinking of a counter statement to allay her fears 

"Errm maybe God will give you a man who has the same name then you just surprise him and say honey, I got a tattoo in your name *dumb I know but I was desperate to console her* "The sobs grew louder
"Emehhhhhhhh,i have his f**king face by the name. How do I get a man with the same face. This boy knew he was going to dump me and he allowed me get this tattoo two weeks before he dumped me.

OOPS! Errm Errm...*well maybe..

"Yea now you see, you have nothing to say‎. I thought so too. My dear, let's get back, we will discuss. He is always inthe next bar every evening with her. I know he is there today."

Suddenly a fellow staff called her and she ran off, I was relieved and sad. I pitied her. I went back to meet my friend
who noticed the change of countenance. 

I was sipping my drink silently while he chatted with his friend. They had just brought my isi ewu(goat head). The aroma offered an instant lift to my dampened spirit when I heard "Miss Petite, Miss Petite ". There he was.The man who just dumped a lady who loved him dearly because of fame. After exchanging pleasantries with my friend who he obviously knew, he settled close to me. 

" you have abandoned me oh‎,you know I was nominated for...Awards in Newyork right..Oh that's great I retorted. 

"I was at the other lounge when one bar guy said miss petite is here looking for me and you are the only one who would make me come here.

I was shocked. How when then I looked up at her standing at the end of the bar and realised she had sent someone there to tell him that so I could talk to him "

*Clearing my throat

"I'm so happy for you dear,i see all your doing ‎.You now friends with famous people and all.Hope you thinking of settling down now. Remember stick with your day 1 like 2 baba oh. This girl loved you with nothing.

He smiled. ‎

‎Yea yea I know..See eh, you are my person so i'll tell you straight up. I no fit. E no fit waka. As in I don pass this level na Emeh. Someday I will help her if I can but we can't be together"

I honestly blanked out. I didn't hear what he was saying for the next 20 minutes but I was just nodding in affirmation.I didn't even realise he was back to talking about his achievements. I locked eyes with her standing, watching us attentively. I gave her a smile of courage. She needed that look of hope, that things will be alright.

This was life.The sad truth about love. You never really know
 a man's love for you till he's rich and famous.
He excused himself to go back to meet his date.I didn't even notice him leave. By then, it was time to go, my goat head was cold.I had lost my appetite. 

As we walked out of the bar,I walked up to her and said ...

"It's going to be fine "
Will he be back..She asked with so much hope in her sad eyes
"Oh honey! I think its high time you consider a laser tattoo removal"

I made a mental note ..Maybe it was time to to respect and admire girls ‎who don't do broke guys.They don't care about riding the bus with you,they want to only hangout when you own that sleek ride.Why suffer and sweat when you end up being dumped for someone more 'classy' befitting of his status. ? Whatever happened to transforming her to match your status? I guess that's too much to ask for ...‎

‎We looked at each other and hugged. For the first time, a tear trickled down my once emotionless face.

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Emeh Achanga