We've known each other of 12yrs and being crushing on each other since day 1...Still is and maybe will always love this guy.Problem is, He's worried about how/ if his parents would accept my Muslim background...Am worried about my father , how or if he would accept him being ibo..
Question is, do we throw away our 12yrs of friendship and get over each other, or do we keep going and hope for the best??
Non of us really has an answer .He says he cant imagine having to get over me.
I think we should just let it go, count our loss, shed tear and not waste each other's time....better now than later
At this point, am beyond confused as to what to do
Anyone been through this???
You keep on hoping for the best... gone are d days when parents have a "105%" stake concerning their kids' marriage
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hmmmm, thats tru sha, it is better to try meet your parents
DeleteYou have been together for 13 years and don't know how your parents will react?
Delete12years is a long long time. What were you guys doing in your 5,6,7th year and so on. take a bold step and let the man approach your parents. do it with prayers and all. there are highly successful marriage from different tribes in Nigeria even from the yoruba ibo group.
DeleteGbam anon 10:11
DeleteHave you guys tried to meet eachother's parents? Do that first
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm, take a deep breath.... my dear tell ur parents I knw not all yoruba's are wicked as my landlord. I dnt knw abt u people's age ooo, but as for the Ibo guy he shld be man enuf to take decisions on his own. forget abt tribalism in this and let dem see reason u both loves each oda. I'm sure they'll see reasons wit u guyz and let u be.
ReplyDeleteSo u're calling my dad a wicked man abi? Just get ready for trouble between u and I. Numb scull!!!
DeleteHaha wonders .Anon don't tell me you are the one looking for advice insulting somebody.Smh
DeleteNope! My dad is the landlord he's insulting. U'll hear from me soon, vizzy smello . Just don't allow me open ur nyash here. U better mind how u insult elderly people
DeleteLmao.please tell your dad. This vizzy is becoming a pest. Reader who needs advice, meet up with his parents first
Delete12 years together are you people waiting for rapture? Go and meet your parents jare
ReplyDeleteThanks you, I thought this too. It is simple for an Igbo person, hardly igbo parents have definite decision in their son's marriage, to the best of my knowledge they can only recommend and advice. I can't say much about Yoruba's.
DeleteAnon 14:57 e.g lola and Peter or.is it Paul
DeleteIt won't work. Forget it
ReplyDeleteDon't be a pessimist...
DeleteMeet your parents first and let them say no; do not assume for them. The answer is always NO when you do not ask.
ReplyDeleteWith God all things are possible.
ReplyDeleteHave you met your parents? How can you be scared of what you haven't tried out.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly are you asking now
ReplyDeletehave been in such case bfore,but that hppens wen i was in pluto,i dn't know how is gonna be on earth.no advise*streetfighter*
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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If both of yu really love each other and have the means of building a life together then i dont ur parents is a problem...
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If they can accept you being a christian for 8yrs trust me they'll accept your guy
ReplyDelete12yrs wow, and by what i read u guys have not asked yall parents bout d possibility..una suppose to know wat u both realy want for eachother, if d guy is man enough in decisions and una realy feel una wella, una parents will loose in trying to stop una. gd lck
ReplyDeleteTalk to your parents first
ReplyDeleteSenseless letter. When you talk to them, come back
ReplyDeleteTribalism is surely eating up Nigerians, get over it.
ReplyDeletei have been in a similar situation and we are both married now. When i first told my dad he refused but he later accepted when i made him see reasons why i have to be with my man. just try talk to your parents and see how it goes from there. do not just assume when you have not given it a try. Also wondering how you have been with a guy for 12years and both parents dont know about it.JUSTWONDERING.
ReplyDeleteWe have being friends/crushing for 12yrs but only being dating for about 18months...
DeleteWe live in different states....And so do both our parents
But yah, guess time would tell. We can only hope and pray all goes well.
Thanks for all your honest opinions and some foolishness
Thanks MIssPetite For posting my letter
*Fingers Crossed*