I'm a reader of your blog and I need your help. It's an awkward situation but I'd like you to put it on your blog so I get help from your readers.
Basically, I'm 18. I'm school in Bristol, Uk. I've been here since I was 15. And since I came, I've been dating this English boy. I lost my virginity to him and since then we've been having protected a sex. Unlike my mates over here, I'm not on the "pill" because if my mother sees it she will smother me, (You know how it is back home) so my only form of protection is condom.
Well last week, my crew and I went clubbing and on our way back, we got into an accident and it was bad. I lost consciousness and when I regained my consciousness, the doctor told my I lost my baby. Emeh, I swear to God I didn't know I was pregnant, not to talk of 3 months pregnant. I haven't even told my boyfriend because I'm scared as hell. I don't event want to think of telling my parents. The only reason they don't know now yet is because I'm 18 so I'm no longer considered a minor and I'm "legal" (that means I have sole control over what ever decisions I make in my life from now) but you know that's now how it is back home, my mom makes all the decisions and this won't stop until I'm out of that house and in my husband's house. I know my secret will come out one day and it's killing me.
It also hurts me that I've been drinking so much in the past three months not knowing it was ruining the life of an unborn child. I'm very skinny and the doctors tell me that's why I didn't notice any body changes, if I'm being honest, when my boy friend told me I put on weight I was sorta happy. I guess the pregnancy was a result of a broken condom.
Emeh I'm scared. I don't know how to tell my mom cus she doesn't even know I've been having sex
You don't have to tell her .She won't get married to you.Rather tell the man who will marry you
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DeleteYou don't have to tell her nor do you have to tell the man you will marry in future unless it's absolutely necessary like if (God forbid) fertility issues come up. But other than that I'll say you should try and forgive yourself and also seek God's face, this could greatly help you get some closure.
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You just lost the baby, telling your mum just means you want her to know you have been having sex.
ReplyDeleteThank God your life wasn't harmed and you are fine. You can tell your boyfriend so you guys will be more careful next time.
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"U guys will be more careful next time"....is dat d same advice u will giv 2 ur sis who is barely 18???...She shouldn't tell her mum but she should continue...is dis ur candid advice...if its ur child will u wish same 4 her?...be honest..
DeleteDid you think their brain on her head...she is just a dull...wasting tyme on blogging without google adsense or any monetize publisher acct...so what did you expect from her...some1 dat cnt thinking straight will just be sayin nonsense
DeleteOMG see what these uniben female students are doing in their hostel, shaking their bakassi
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You who is spamming Emeh's blog with dead links no one clicks on is the fool.Better change profession into a wheel barrow pusher before its too late
DeleteYou both are unrealistic idiots.Isyberry's advice is the right advice. That's being realistic.Now Grow up fuckers!
DeleteLol! We are not going to ask a sexually active person not to have sex, that is rather hypocritical. She has been exposed to it, the best you can do is advise her to be careful. Moreover it's a free world, I gave my advice it left for you to give yours or shut the hell up and look away.
DeleteOladiti dotun, I have no words for you. That you know this much about me means you visited my blog which makes it fine for you to talk trash and get away with it.
Sincere apologies Emeh for all this mess. Keep inspiring me *kisses*
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No tell your mama oh.Hian.The only gbese go happen when u wan marry
ReplyDeleteU are too young 2 engage in activities like this..wat will u do wen u r 25?...Focus on ur studies..OMG!!D tins kids do dis days...wen I was 18 I won't even say hello 2 a guy..Do not destroy ur self..u hv a long way to go...u can hv friends..but sex at 18..I do not subscribe
ReplyDelete18 already having sex and even a miscarriage. You must be Yoruba because those are the only immigrants in Bristol UK. Tell your mum that you have been having sex since 15. She will be happy for you
ReplyDeletePoster pls slow down on so called fun.Concentrate on Ur studies.2 young to be enmeshed in pregnancy saga.Respect Ur family values and training U ve nurtured over d years.Good luck
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: I agree with u, inaddition go and seek forgiveness from God, he alone can heal u. Ur mum can't do that.
DeleteTell ur Mum immediately and desist from these activities..read ur books get close 2 God...U have ur whole life ahead of u...I bet ur boyfriend is barely 21...u both should read ur books...there's time 4 everything
ReplyDeleteBetter calmly tell your mum you made a mistake and got pregnant and you won't do it again. This is because you never know.Also make sure you do a proper checkup and take adequate drugs to ensure no complications arise from this.You need to chill too with the boyfriend thing,drinking and all. Too young. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteStory story!! Story. Have you been telling your mum of all the sex you have been having with your boo?? If you have not, then you have a lot to tell. Let sleeping dogs lie. At the rate you are going, I know more is coming. That's if you don't slow it down.
ReplyDelete@ the age of 18,common on, at this point in time no relationship could lead to any form of marriage @ this stage......form her words she sounds more like a teenager,I don't have much words on this......but you just have to let your mother know...because I think she is in the best postion to talk sense into you.....only under the circumstance if you have no elderly or older siblings you can narrate your misterious excapade to....because most fortunate times it better to seek advise or narrate ones bad unfortunate incident to someone who is more exprienced or older than you in all ramification of life,and most likely if they are your siblings.....if you choose to keep it to your self or better still between you and your bF....the likelihood and possibilities surounding it reoccurance is large,and 85% certainty.....all you need is an advise and not someone to scold your negligence or your ignorance atitude
ReplyDeleteChai...children of nowadays...hmm...at 18 ur p***y hav been tearing condoms...ok o...
ReplyDeleteLooks like you enjoy the sound of those words.Ode olodo
DeleteWell, I'd advice you. I'm a nigerian in England as we'll and I'm not going to lie, the temptation is much so I don't blame you. These boys are beautiful. A similar situation happened to me but Your case is sorta better. I found out I was 4 months pregnant when I was only 16 and I found out during a normal routine test when my mom was there with me and trust my anambra mother, she threw a slap, I'd never forget that day. I usually miss my periods due to this condition so the absence of my period was no big deal. Well today, I have a baby girl, she's 8 months, I'm turning 18 soon however, because we don't want family members to know, at least not yet, I haven't been to Nigeria ever since, it's been nearly two years but my daughters dad and I are still close. The plus side- I have a half caste cutie that I'm proud to call mine. I'm not telling you to get pregnant for a white boy and have his baby, I'm telling you to use better forms of contraception, condoms and shit and "body np be wood" once you climb on that rod there's no climbing down. Unless you want to become a celibate ? Stay safe babe.
ReplyDeleteLol! I like ur comment. Very real. God bless your baby!!
DeleteThe one with miscarrige. Pls embrace calmness you need sm1 elderly to talk to you, nt a must its your mum. I tell my elder sister stuff unlike mum that will raise alarm. Just let the sleeping dog lie!! We are peer-group so I know the temptation. Stay focus darl.
Hian!! Nigerian Teenagers be turning into ashawos in the UK.
ReplyDeleteAnd d ones in naija wht are they turning into den
DeleteIts bera u tell ur mom hon.After all,d scolding and beatings won't kill u.
ReplyDeleteWitchcraft
ReplyDeleteOnce u climb on that rod there is no going back! Unless God shows up!
ReplyDeleteGo tell your Grandma then.
ReplyDeleteTell ur dog
ReplyDeleteO o o ya! Hmmm...so you want to confess to your mother who's going to tell you that she was virgin before marriage abi? Do tell her because of your accident and the possible complications. Then get on the pill but desist from having unprotected sex. A broken condom should have been obvious to you and your guy. Na so the thing sweet una?
ReplyDeleteJst tell ur dog.Shikenan
ReplyDeleteEverybody tryna be Holier dan thou out here #Yuck!!!
ReplyDeleteSwty dere's no use cryin over spilt milk I'll say God helped u solve dis whole puzzle wat do u want 2 tell ur mum dat u got pregnant over a baby dat no longer exists? Or dat u've been havin sex @ 18. It's jst a wakeup call 4 u 2 re-arrange ur priorities and focus on wat matters most in ur life. Dust urself up and move un wit ur life.
My Dear Just let the sleepin Dog lie low
ReplyDeleteu dnt want ur mum to no nd u post ur pics on air,believe me she don no.
ReplyDeleteU must be sooo daft frm all indicatns.
DeleteHahaha see mumu! @anon 12:54
DeleteSweet heart! There is no need to tell ur mum, it's past pray to God to help u stay away from sex,Ć is on ur own there is no climbing diwn o! And coming from a married woman with 2 kids, you go f**k tire na u go run. Just wait for the tight time
ReplyDeleteOlodo dats not her pics
ReplyDeleteWhat I would advice you to do is focus on ONLY God to help you come out of this because the temptations will keep coming. One sure fact is that it won't be easy at all to change but be sincere and go to God; you can't change your past but He can because He is the same yesterday, today and forever. He will wipe off your past and give you a new slate. Then don't be hard on yourself or hate yourself for disappointing your mum it will only make you more depressed. U cant change the past but you sure can change your future. Just get up, put immoral things away and start afresh with God. I wish I could talk to you more. You can go to this link: https://www.facebook.com/LoveAssemblyLiverpool. This by the way but if you wish, you can visit this blog: unmeritedlove.wordpress.com
ReplyDeleteAm suprised at u @kanayo eze...r u telling me u hvnt seen an 18yr old gal havin sex b4 am even sure u hv slept underage girls sef..stop criticizing n help her wit wat she askd 4....as 4 d poster bi more careful nxt time so dat such won't repeat itsef again...n try to abstain frm sex 4 nw...no more drinking again..am sure if u pray God will show u d right path to follow
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