Help! My Fiancee was raped & I don't want to marry her again | This Is Miss Petite Nigeria Blog

Monday, 24 February 2014

Help! My Fiancee was raped & I don't want to marry her again

Advice needed am Joshua a guy of 29, stays here in lagos... It's two weeks to my marriage. But an incident happened just yesterday, a gang of robbers entered my fiancee's room ( we don't stay together) and collected everything she had and also RAPED her... Please help what should i do? I don't want to marry her again cos she's been raped. And i don't wana break her heart what should i do?

NB:Joshua had been dropping this in the comment section..removed it and put up as a post so y'all can give him better advice
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64 comments:

  1. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 14:40

    You should marry her.Don't be wicked

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    1. Temi24 February 2014 at 15:12

      I think you did this to her intentionally because you don't want to marry her. God will judge you

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  2. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 14:43

    Marry her bro.....don't kill her totally

    5 year old found having sex

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  3. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 14:43

    Endtimes rape

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  4. Truth24 February 2014 at 14:48

    Imagine you even considering leaving her. Wicked fool. I know you are Yoruba

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    1. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:01

      LOOOOOL My Nigga Truth!!!! I believe you! You always speak the truth! :)

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  5. slimzyose24 February 2014 at 14:53

    Joshua pls dnt break up wiv her,pls I beg u cos u wil only end up hurting her more than d robbers/rapists did,u wil neva b able 2 imagine d extent 2 wch she is hurt now,she needs u now dan ever,she need u 2 hlp heal her,cos believe me she's jst been wounded psychologically,emotionally n may b physically,I can't rili explain dis 2 u cos u wil neva b able 2 get d true picture of wat she's going thru N wat she wil stil go thru,pls she needs u now.I knw it's nt easy bt pls dis is d time 2 prove ur luv 2 her,she might even change bt with time,counselling N love she will pull thru.

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  6. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 14:55

    As harsh as this sounds, do what ur mind tells you.
    A broken relatnship is far better than a broken marriage.
    Rape is a sensitive issue. Pray and fast. Then make a decision

    If I were the girl, I would want for u to marry me. But again, I would not want you looking at me with disgust all my life so in that case, I would rather not go ahead.

    Another way to buy time is to postpone for now.

    Those are the logical things.
    Now I'll talk to you as a man. U wanted to marry this lady. For better for worse? In sickness and in health? You chose to spend the rest of your life with this lady. You chose her from all the women in the world. And already you are running at the first sight of 'worse'?
    Do you actually Love her? Or you were just going to marry for marriage sake?

    What if she did not tell you about it? Won't you have gone ahead with it?

    Now she opened up and told you her greatest shame and instead of you to comfort her, u want to leave her instead?

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    1. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:08

      Missp na who be this guy?? he's mean...like you said...what if she didnt tell him....what if she told him after marriage. She loved you enough to tell you and this is your reaction...haba

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    2. Unknown24 February 2014 at 16:12

      And what if she was raped after the marriage? Heal her wounds and marry that girl man.

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    3. M24 February 2014 at 18:04

      The guy doesn't love her. No need to convince the fool

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  7. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 14:58

    It's clear you don't love her. So scoot mudafucka

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  8. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:04

    Bro I believe u have sisters...tink of d trauma she's going through now...all u av to do is to be der 4 her no mater wat has happened,u just can desert her now..u've come to far to quit n God is not goin 2 be hppy wit u..do unto her wat u won't want odas to do to ur sisters.

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  9. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:06

    This is what annoys me....if it was a man, we'll expect the woman to stand by him but....abeg just leave the poor girl alone....don't hurt her...poor girl

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  10. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:07

    Well said @anon,leaving her is gona be ur worst nightmare

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  11. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:08

    Odeagbu! she didn't ask to be raped na,or did u hire someone(or pplea) to rape her to stop d wedding? Josh! Let her go for series of test and check-up and den Marry d babe ......

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  12. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:11

    My fiancee'w best man raped me but I never told my husband till today because I jokingly asked him I read somewhere that a best man raped a bride to be and he said he will kill the best man and let the woman go.He said it's a taboo to marry a woman who has been raped. I just kept quiet. Don't ask me what I did to the best man. But he won't be able to talk again

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  13. Desmond 2 d G24 February 2014 at 15:18

    AhahAaaaaaaa nice idea emeh......you went of gist and decided to feed us with this fake rubbish...
    No comment...cos it looks too unreal....2weeks to ur wedding...a rape tin appened and you wana dump everything just like that..#unreAl

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  15. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:24

    Why now, its very obvious you don't love her. Too bad

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  18. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 15:40

    u r an idiot,u wanna brk up wit a gal cs she tld u d truth, n u ve d guts 2 seek 4 advice, ders seriously somthng wrong wit ya head, borrow a brain!

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  19. Jasmins Rene24 February 2014 at 15:59

    Very interesting blog. Thanks for sharing such useful information here and nice sna

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  20. ANNY24 February 2014 at 15:59

    See life? this is a good test and it only prooves dat u DO NOT love her!!!! u don't deserve her at all.

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  21. CHIC JEH24 February 2014 at 16:24

    josh, my candid advise is for you to go ahaed wit the marriage plans. considering wot she went through in the hands of those monster call armed robbers.she told you everthing that happen you where not around,josh let us look at it the other way round put yourself in her shoe and she tell you dis how will you feel my broda? how will you feel?your lady is going through trauma if you really love her as you clam stand by her she needs you now more than ever, the love, the care and the advice.you need not to look out for any other lady. The devil you know is better the angels you do not know please stand by her be the man that you are to her and you will see the blessing of God upon your life.God bless you.GOD BLESS NIGERIA.

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  22. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 16:24

    why do you want to leave her @ this time.

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  23. Unknown24 February 2014 at 16:26

    Pls am coming joshua...... Give me two seconds....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN THE SUN***

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  24. AMIEY24 February 2014 at 16:46

    MONSTER! thats the best word for you. Do you think shes happy about it? Do you thinnk shes overjoyed by the fact that she was raped? and den u sit der, instead of standing by her at a time like this when she needs you most, you want to break up with her?? im sure you've told her u love her before, do u even know the meaning of love? u cant sef, cos monsters like you are incapable of love.. i cant hide d disgust i feel that irritants like u actually exist in d same world as me. infact, you're worse dan a monster, uer even worse dan the devil, matter of fact, calling you satan is an insult to satan cos hes waaaayy nicer than you! BEAST!! *pukes*

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  25. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 17:41

    Amiey tnks 4 dat lovely comment.. I was lokn 4 a way to give it to Him,but u've said it all

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  26. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 17:43

    Devil is way nicer dan him..devils incarnate

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  27. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 17:45

    Greedy fool

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  28. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 17:45

    Oboy una wan kill am just bcos him say e no marry again,na wa oo marriage na by force?

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    1. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:19

      SHEY U GO LIKE AM IF DEM DO AM TO U?

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    2. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:57

      My bf broke up wiv me cos I was raped,I stil get mad abt d whole tin N stil looking 4 a way 2 destroy d idiot who raped me,I jst feel empty @ times N seem. 2 blame myself 4 everytin,it's jst a bf dat left me nt a fiancee,now imagine aw she wil feel.

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    3. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 14:40

      You dont av 2 feel empty. God luvs u jst d way u are and He's jst waitin 4 u to trust in his love. About d rapist forgive him becos dats d way to gain 4giveness ova ur own sins. Its hard bt trust Jesus' luv to guide you through.

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  29. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 17:47

    this guy is stupid. What if some girls should drug you and rape you, does it mean you will never marry again? Did she rape herself? Was she a virgin before you met her? Were you a virgin before you met her? You are just being stupid. You may leave her and end up dating a girl without any womb. Fuck u

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  30. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 17:55

    Chic jeh even d Devil himself would have a second thought...no nid of usin d F word,u said it all

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  31. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:00

    Very wicked,since u already "dnt wnt 2 marry her again" its better u dnt marry bcos once u marry u v married no turning baqq,so Oga its better u dnt marry since d love is nt dia again inseat of getting married 2 d poor girl n nt showin her love,dats all.

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  32. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:21

    Am becoming Addicted to dis Blog

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    1. G24 February 2014 at 18:22

      Welcome to the club..i be confam addict

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  33. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:47

    Jokes apart..dis BLog is getn HOtter Day by Day

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  34. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:51

    Guy Marry dat Girl b4 thunder Fire Ur PENIS..U ModaFucKa

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  35. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 18:56

    HahaaaHahu,wey thunder dey Fire penis na..very funny..still Lafin my life out

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  36. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 19:09

    Pls don't marry her if u r going to frustrate her in d marriage or do it out of pity, i know God will heal her & give her a man dat will adore her!

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    1. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 14:31

      Abi o...God will give her a better man and also the strength to wait for him.

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  37. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 20:51

    Guy do u kn if she's testin u?amiey hv saud it all.congratz 2u emeh ur blog is cosin trafffic.started visitin dix blog wen u started new in de yr 2011#deraa

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  38. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 20:52

    Guy do u kn if she's testin u?amiey hv saud it all.congratz 2u emeh ur blog is cosin trafffic.started visitin dix blog wen u started new in de yr 2011#deraa

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  39. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 21:16

    Its only God dat will judge u Josh.... Ur wicked,moster,devil,satan..... If u leave her u shall no no peace in dis world cos even God shall curse u..... Why r men wicked?

    Sexychubby

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  40. Troker24 February 2014 at 22:28

    Wow...please, don't marry her so she can go and find a better man than you.
    You're a wicked person.

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  41. That happy child24 February 2014 at 23:08

    Did she rape herself joshua?mtcheewwww fucktard.

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  42. Anonymous24 February 2014 at 23:13

    Oboy Rape tins,the gal head nor get oil maybe na shaft dem remain for u hmmm,well if na virgin before nor marry am cos if u nor deliver like d rapist marriage go cast o bt if she don dey dagger before u meet am jst assume say na normal tin marry am swallow ur pride most of d gals these days rape na like flexn for dem jst bone abi u nor like am before......#slowpoke

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    1. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 06:03

      U must be mad to say rape na flexn for gals nw adays.... Do u tink dey enjoy it wen they r raped? Or after d rape it just goes away lyk a normal tin.... I pray u don't experience it in ur life

      Sexychubby

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  43. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 08:58

    you alread said you dont want to marry her. good u told the truth. now explain to her and her family and move on. I believe she will find someone who loves her through good and bad. And please in your next relationship, make sure you tell the truth on why you called of your wedding. Cos guys like you will say she cheated on you.

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  44. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 11:08

    D fact remains DAT u never loved her,if u truly did,notin will ever make u change ur mind!hw sure are u DAT next victim u want for a wife has not bin raped before?dis is a question DAT all of us shud ask ourselves,what if u had married her and dis incident happened,what will u have done?divorce her or what?my bro if u really luv some one,no matter what happen,learn to take it with gud fate.think abt it be before u make ur decision.

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  45. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 13:37

    My dear tanks for dat question and the answer is he will still do d same silly thing and make the wife's life miserable. Not touchin her and withdrawin 4rm her gradually not only sexually but generally and as such making her suffer not only from the rape trauma but d trauma of seeing dat you disgust the love of ur life, I mean it's not a new thing, it happens almost everyday in our society. To any such woman who reads dis please step aside so dat u can heal properly and be dere strong for your children cos I can only assure you dat u are not healing in dat hauz @ all and sooner or later u might loose it.

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  46. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 14:25

    In our weakness, love is made perfect. Wats d essence of lovin wen u cant love in tryin times? If u rili loved her all d while u will stand by her and together u'll overcome. Despite all dis comments it still balls down to u; make a choice and choose wisely remember wat happened 2 her could happen 2 anybody includin u. Goodluck

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  47. Anonymous25 February 2014 at 17:06

    Only God truly has unconditional love. This is crazy. For someone who has gone through a traumatic experience like rape and all of a sudden she's not good enough anymore.

    Let God be the judge of this because I am speechless.

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  48. Unknown25 February 2014 at 20:25

    I was raped at 11 by my step mother a boyfriend and at 26 I still hate myself at times,I have a business and I overwork myself coz I feel m dirty for any men to love.it doesn't only hurt its hell inside.at the same time I hate to tell people this coz it's just pity I ll get.ask yourself if u love her if u don't u know wat to do,don't pity her coz tomorrow tables might turn and ur sister is raped and a guy tells her she can't marry her coz of that.we don't choose wat happens to us and you will never know y it happens.read ur heart it will b honest with u.

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    1. Unknown29 May 2014 at 16:28

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    2. Unknown30 May 2014 at 07:39

      U cant live a life with no love,all men r not dogs dont deny yourself of true love,i bet there is some one who truely loves u unconditionally

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  49. Unknown29 May 2014 at 16:29

    sometimes people lie

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