Hi Emeh. Please help me share this with your readers. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now and he proposed in December 2013 and we plan to get married in April. Before him, I dated a guy who I loved so much but was a player. I got pregnant for him and he forced me to have several abortions which I did.
Since then, I moved on but realized I've never gotten pregnant even by mistake for my fiancee. Yesterday, he raised the issue up.He said he finds it strange that all his friend's girlfriends have gotten pregnant atleast once while dating but I never have.He said all his ex have gotten pregnant before.
I picked up a fight and told him I have been on contraceptives and all. Now he said we should try getting pregnant first before marriage. He told me to drop my contraceptives and that since we are getting married anyway, why do I need them.
I'm scared he won't marry me if I don't get pregnant and being an Igbo boy and me Delta, I suspect his mum raised the issue . I'm scared the problem is from me.
Now I 'm 30 and can't afford to lose this guy. How to I make him marry me before letting him find out whatever problem it is I have?
Please help me
Since then, I moved on but realized I've never gotten pregnant even by mistake for my fiancee. Yesterday, he raised the issue up.He said he finds it strange that all his friend's girlfriends have gotten pregnant atleast once while dating but I never have.He said all his ex have gotten pregnant before.
I picked up a fight and told him I have been on contraceptives and all. Now he said we should try getting pregnant first before marriage. He told me to drop my contraceptives and that since we are getting married anyway, why do I need them.
I'm scared he won't marry me if I don't get pregnant and being an Igbo boy and me Delta, I suspect his mum raised the issue . I'm scared the problem is from me.
Now I 'm 30 and can't afford to lose this guy. How to I make him marry me before letting him find out whatever problem it is I have?
Please help me
You are a wicked with. Read my lips a WITCH. Tell him you are barren now before it's late
ReplyDeleteSometimes I just want to slap all these posters, have u bn to the hospital to find out if u can have more kids? Instead u want us to know ur fiancee wants to get pregnant before marriage. At 30 u can't think for urself in this kind of matter then u r not matured to get married
DeleteHw can u say she's barren? listen to ur stupid self #mtchew#,,girl Go for a fertility test,infact you both nid dat test sef ,dnt even tell him u've had an abortion before,is he God? Dat u're telling him,how many girls did he mke to do abortions for him ? Did he tell u? Abeg all na exchange ,confess dat to God nt him jor,nd him telin u he wants u preggers b4 marriage sounds smhw,like he's just marrying you for procreation not for love,well my assertions tho, I myt be wrong• You just tink abt it
DeleteChai Amber was a beautiful pregnant woman oh
DeleteWait ? So u feel u have a p. If u have a p tell him nd leave him. U dnt actually love him. Hw cn u b tinkin of settin a trap for him for ur whole selfish interest? If u have a womb probs, let him knw. Marriage is nt compulosry. Bcos he will still find out nd trust me it ll b dramatic. If u dnt have any p, go to a hospital for tests to confirm dat. Sm women dnt like to get pregnant b4 weddings. So prove u re in a good condition nd make him understnd ur desires for pregnancy is after d weddin
ReplyDelete1. If he kisses you for more than 20minutes without reaching
Deletefor your panties... marry him,
he is a HUSBAND MATERIAL 80%
2. If she enters your house and
sees you eating Rice without
Beef or Chicken and she runs to the kitchen to grab a spoon
shouting "wait for me don't finish uummm"... bros, marry her,she's
WIFE MATERIAL 90%.
3. If he spends on you only
because he is expecting something from you... my sister, don't marry him, he is HUSBAND MATERIAL 2%
4. If she is on more than three of these; twitter, facebook, bbm, eskimi, badoo, skype,
instagram, 2go, WhatsApp,
Mxit, Nimbuzz, Foursquare, Ebuddy, WeChat, Yahoo
messenger and others...
my brother run for your dear life! don't marry her, she is a WIFE
MATERIAL 1%
lols
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ReplyDeleteMy dear put ur mind down! As far as u see ur mensural cycle u hv no issue n Deres no1 barren in dis life......i get most guys dese days do d 'tasted Ok' tingy....jst relax u will get preg but dat shudnt b his reason for marrying u!!!! Jst relax n b steadfast in prayers.
ReplyDeleteSo once u get ur period it means u cannot av infertility iss abi? U av spoken well Mr/Mrs Ignorant
DeleteSo once u get ur period it means u cannot av infertility iss abi? U av spoken well Mr/Mrs Ignorant
DeleteU guys r hrtless wit words,did she say she has a p wit her womb?smh!! My dr pls calm dwn,u r perfectly kk jst go n run some test 2 convince urslf.as 4 ur man, I'm tinkin he doesn't love u sef, ple marry out of love first,b4 d issue of kids arises.
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what to advice lol
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D man doesn't Luv u. Leave him. Luv doesn't giv condition.
ReplyDeleteAfter killing all ur kids!ur cup don full,bitch
ReplyDeleteU DNT AV ANY RIGHT TO JUDGE HER. EVEN WOMEN WHO NEVA HAD ABORTION, STIL FIND IT DIFFICULT GETTING PREGNANT. IF U R GUY: GUES U MUST AV IMPREGNATED A BABE ONCE N DENIED IT, WICH I KNW SHE MUST AV ABORTED IT AND IF U R BABE: U MUST AV ABORTED TOO. ABEG NO ONE IS A SAINT, WE ALL AV OUR REGRETS. SO KEEP UR DIRTY MOUTH SHUT IF U CANNOT ADVISE
Deleteafter numerous abortion, you now crying...... shame on you....
ReplyDeleteThe man is right to be worried. Better beg God for a miracle
ReplyDeleteMarriage is serious, don't start it on a wrong footing. Visit fertility clinics, do comprehensive tests, show your man you are ok. Children are blessings from GOD irrespective of your past. . . But NEVER you start marriage on a wrong footing so you dont become miserable later.
ReplyDeleteI think u r already stressing urself out, in any case if u have any reason to be afraid considering the abortions u had, u can see a gynaecologist on ur own to get accessed. If not I will recommend u go for flushing, bcos there are infections that remain untreated after abortion that can cause infertility. All d best, stress can increase ur prolactin level which will make it impossible to get pregnant.
ReplyDeleteIf ur man really love u he should go ahead and do the right thing,not talking about children now.
ReplyDeleteChildren will always come when they will come,they are gift from God not man made.my dear be sure of ur man..dont u fink he is not sure of him self? Becareful.
Ever heard of Kobnomi?...yeah i kno u must hav heard cos from ur post i can tell u ve been a badt geh...now back 2 d issue(#puts on my prof. glass)...just put small quantity 4 him food,i repeat,small quantity o,if u put am too much na kirikiri u go do marriage cos u go kill d nigga...just small quantity and him go dey follow u 4 yansh like ewure'... gbam...oya thank me now.
ReplyDeletehahahahahahaha....very wicked of u
DeleteLooool at this reply men
DeleteYou are too funny. But seriously girl just go for a test ALONE first. If you are in the clear, (don't tell about him the test results) convince him to go for some tests with you. Then preach to him that you are against pregnancy before. But if it turns out you actually have a problem pls tell him about and pray real hard.
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God... U are so wicked and heartless..... Look at this ogbono.... No go tell my guyman the truth....
ReplyDeleteD GUYMAN NO BE GOD, IF HE DON GIVE BABES BELLE TOO WEY DEM DON ABORT FOR HIM. D CRY OF DOSE GIRLS TOO MIGHT BE WORKING AGAINST D GUY GETTING ANODA BABE PREGNANT. NA COMMON SENSE
Deletesee advice. Dominic your mean please go for a test and check yourself to be on the safe side. and I don't blame the guy .
ReplyDeleteThey both had a reckless life,d guy shuld also go for checking.
ReplyDeleteFirst, I suggest you surrender your Life to Jesus wholeheartedly ask him for forgiveness from your past. Then go to the hospital and do a comprehensive test. After that speak to your man. If you have fertility issues, let him know and if you don't, let him know too with proofs and explain your stand to him on pregnancy before marriage. However, a man who truly luvs you would stand by you regardless of your past mistakes and wud help you become a better person, stand with you, pray and fight for you. If he cant stand by you then you are not meant to be. Don't allow your age push you into manipulating a man into marriage. There are women who were much older than you before they got married and realized it was worth the wait. Goodluck.
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The guy is not pure too.Maybe no child because of the ones he also removed with his ex. Go for a fertility test, if it's your fault, just dump him
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ReplyDeletejust a little advise from me.Am a man i never like the idea of getting a woman pregnat b4 marriage dat is not how to show true love and moreover you need to understand the implication in the christian world.what did your bible say about it,the bible we look at as a meyr book is our amnual for daily growth and development.please do not be mislead by what ppl are saying and do not think age is telling on you my essiential advise for you is that seek the face of God let God be involve in dis situation and you will get the right result.God bless you.
ReplyDelete*Mere ,Annual, Involved Thank me later
DeleteHahaha who is this always correcting people Hian
DeleteDangerous play. Dont even try marrying him b4 telling cos u'll be in HOTTER Hell. Read all about relationships here
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Den if somtin happnz 2 d child after d marrage it bcomz all ur fault, his mad dnt marry him.
ReplyDeleteSome of you are really heartless, let he who is without a sin cast a stone! What kinda rash and wicked comments ! She needs advice and not crucifixion! It's idiots like some of you that got her pregnant in the past ! And if she had a baby that's suffering you peeps will still talk! You peeps need to be considerate with words! Her wedding is in April and see all this devastating comments! Babe I'm sure you're fertile, very fertile! And your mind already telling you what you want! Follow your mind okay! And do what pleases you... sorry about all this rash comments!
ReplyDeleteSome of you are really heartless, let he who is without a sin cast a stone! What kinda rash and wicked comments ! She needs advice and not crucifixion! It's idiots like some of you that got her pregnant in the past ! And if she had a baby that's suffering you peeps will still talk! You peeps need to be considerate with words! Her wedding is in April and see all this devastating comments! Babe I'm sure you're fertile, very fertile! And your mind already telling you what you want! Follow your mind okay! And do what pleases you... sorry about all this rash comments!
ReplyDeleteBirds of a feather.
DeleteYou ar me wicked.better tell him
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