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Saturday 22 September 2012

Blogger's Diary - Why men and Sex go hand in hand

You might not agree with me.......

When i was younger.I had this idea that if a man says he loves me, he shouldn't be thinking of sex.But, as I've grown more matured, I've come to realize this isn't the case.Men are visual beings.What they see is what they love.

What you give is what they give back.If you give boredom, they give you boredom in return.If you give fun, excitement, they return it back to you.Is isn't possible for a man to love a lady without wanting to have sex with her? Yes it is!(that"s when the man is either cheating on her,or is a catholic priest).


Women, think with their hearts,we love what we don't see.Its in our nature and trust me, we cant change that.We are ever trusting, ready to make excuses when he cheats, when he hits us, when he,s out all night, when he doesn't show care and concern.Here is a typical excuse a woman would give for her mans actions(I think he's just busy. Or, he's been under some stress lately, Or maybe I"m not doing something right.) Yea right! Ever watched the movie, He,s Not Just Into You? If you haven't ,please go get a copy ladies...


Don,t get me wrong,being attracted to you doesn't mean he wants to keep you.These two are worlds apart and most ladies often misunderstand the difference between a man being attracted to you and wanting to be with none other than you.

A man can be greatly attracted to you without having that feeling of wanting to be with you.This occurs when you don"t help him take you to the next level in his world.Why do I have to help him ? You may ask...Yes, its a man's world.At least in this sphere of life.We do the teasing, the cooking, the petting, the raising...its our duty to make that man see more in us than that beautiful face or sexy body ...by being genuine, homely, romantic,hardworking, sexy(always)caring..

Look at it this way,the fact that he is attracted to you in the first place gives you an edge over all other ladies.An edge to get closer to him,to get into his world,but if you feel there,s nothing more to do,your having a wrong notion because ,he,ll not see you beyond the attraction level.And of course, when that withers away(it eventually does), there would be nothing to hold onto.No foundation to stand on during the stormy weathers.You and your attractive self would come crumbling like a pack of cards.Its sad when some ladies actually think they can keep a man by giving him just good sex.

Dear, that works during your honeymoon stage(when you just meet and are having butterflies in your stomachs) Good sex draws him nearer, nothing more to offer sends him running away at with the speed of lightening.


Ask yourselves, why would a man have sex with you, tell you your the best in bed, yet, never leaves the girl he,s been dating for a longtime or that girl who is not as attractive as you are? Because, she gives him something concrete to hold onto.He can have your sex outside, he can actually buy good sex,but, he cannot buy what she gives him,that satisfaction ,that deep attraction(no more physical),his live revolves around her, his penis revolves around you(lol).So it is a fallacy to think you can take over a man with mere physical attraction...........


...................TO BE CONTINUED






28 comments:

  1. Leave guys and sex ohhh, no use am try dem at all at all. When i was younger ,i just couldnt understand y a man cant love u and forget about your body. This sex thing has made me to loose d dude i like very much. After say 2 years, he don tire to wait ohh. Anyway God will help us sha.

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  2. abeg me l like sex, if a guy did not offer me sex, l will ask him myself, l have always loved sex as a young girl. Till date am still very active and l love to explore in the bedroom , am married now and sex is always on my mind. Discussing this topic make me horny, l love 'it' big and to last longer too, l hate 1minute guys.l have energy for sex oooo.

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  3. Guys are naturally created to be visual beings.they just can't ignore the physical.to them,a relationship without sex is like a party without drinks.smh

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  4. Lol@anon 19:12,your husband has a lot of work on his hands.well,as a guy,I must say this topic explains indepth why we think of sex the moment we set our eyes on a lady.we are visual beings.any woman who doesn't believe that,is living in a fantasy world

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  5. Nice one emeh.ur really doing us proud.ur ex classmate Ben

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  6. Learnt a lot from this post.keep it coming emeh

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  7. Just stumbled on your blog.infact u be correct babe.u don talk am finish

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  8. Very well researched article.humourous too.I've had experiences where I told my boyfriend no cuddling,kissing,sex ,and he didn't object.I felt like d luckiest girl in d world until I discovered he was sleeping with my bestfriend.

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  9. Thank you all for your lovely,encouraging and downright funny comments.comments like yours makes me know people are reading.Nelson (fellow blogger)thanks a mill too.

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  10. Thank you all for your lovely,encouraging and downright funny comments.comments like yours makes me know people are reading.Nelson (fellow blogger)thanks a mill too.

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  11. My boyfriend brokeup with me because I said no to sex before marriage.he got married a year later to a girl he cheated on me with.it hurt coz I tot he wld value me more.I guess men are just like babies. I love ur blog.

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    1. Tinuke am glad u stood ur grounds on the no sex until after marriage thing. The guy no deserve u n God will send u a more deserving man soonest. Besides, if he cheated once, he will cheat again........

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  12. Tinuke,the thing is,sex before marriage is totally wrong ,atleast by moral standards.but the problem is knowing how to deal with it.they are men who totally support and stand by a woman's decision to be celibate.but,we should also know the chances of him going elsewhere are very high.someone said,the only way to avoid sex before marriage is by keeping off the dating scene.how do we get married then?this article is not to encourage sex but,give us a better insight as to why we shouldn't be so appalled by a man showing interest in women early on.different strokes for different folks

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  13. Heh miss Achanga, this is a good one. Am waiting for the promised continuation. I agree with most of what you have said and wish women would be this intelligent and work for our love and attention in the same way we work for their love and attention. Nice piece...
    Greetings from Cameroon...

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  14. hello Dickson,thanks a mill.Keep your fingers crossed for more interesting articles from me.Thanks for encouraging me

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  15. dear this is just a good piece penned down by trained hands. thanks sana(much- in swahili)

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  16. nice one miss achanga... Keep it up

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  17. Emeh...... This post relates to everyone, 1 way or the other, its very funny when u love a girl and she tells you NO to sex, saying if you really love her, you should stay with her, sometimes I laugh *(lwkmd)* and if she still keeps saying that for 5months max during the relationship, I just end it there. Hw do you expect a man, in he's mid 20's or early 30's nt to have sex. Its absurd when she's nt a virgin and says something of such, atleast we can understand when virgins say they want to keep it until after marriage.

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  18. You never dissapoint eme. Atleast with your writeups. Keep it coming

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  19. Emeh. Well done,I'm a very patient person,I waited for 4 Saturdays to be gone before I tell you "welldone" . God dey

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  20. His lyf revolves arnd me bt his penis revolves arnd u #word...I no he's unfaithful bt I'm stil grabbin his waist..haha

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    1. hahahahahah funny.Dear hope your hands dont get burnt o

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  21. It's the dog in us , why would I not sex a woman before marriage it's like not testing a car before buying.

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  22. I keep up wif ur post but i've not commented b4, i luv this piece keep it up dear. Women should start finking wif their heads not heart

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